I agree but i think you forgot the most fashionable way of marriages these days... "Do whatever your wife commands you too because you owe her something just because you're a man..."Because somebody has to define what is 'the right way' of doing things.
Look at it this way. Some groups (religious, cultural) would have a 'you must be subservient and grateful to your husband' slant.
Others would have a 'the womans place is in the home, raising children'
Other would have the 'marriage of equals'.
Some others may have a gay marriage side to their teachings. While some may view that as the worst kind of sin and perversion.
Who is to tell any one of those groups that they are right or wrong ?
Me, with my views and values ?
You, with yours ?
How about a fundamentalist christian preacher. His values ?
Fundamentalist Muslim imam ?
Such classes would be a waste of time because lots of religious and cultural backgrounds teach things that lead to terrible relationships and terrible parenting. People might learn common sense in your marriage and parenting course, but then they attend a completely insane church every week for the next 10 years in an isolated rural area which teaches them how to be antisocial.
They teach that in elementary school. 1 + 2 = 3 and 3 - 1 = 2. Balancing dollar figures doesn't even use things like multiplication or division.I have often said that there should be a required class in highschool that is sort of a "Practical Living" that includes things like learning how to balance a checkbook
Simple interest, compound interest, and mortgages are extensively covered in high school. Understanding the math of compound interest is extremely important because it also applies to biology, chemistry, and physics.credit cards, interest rates, mortgages
In the past, schools did teach these skills. If you failed a test, you could talk to the teacher and try to work out some kind of deal to try again or do a special assignment for extra credit. Now, the answer to everything is lawsuits. Don't worry about coping with failure, we'll just sue the school because that test was clearly unfair. Don't worry about communication skills or how to sit down and shut up, the teacher can't touch you (forcibly remove you from class) and they can't give detention, so there's no need to learn how to be sociable.coping skills, communication skills, handling conflict in relationships (work, friends, SO), negotiation skills and the like.
In a lot of cases, it is. The class about relationships and how not to be a psychopath would very likely talk about equality and partnership, similar to the way many councilors talk about partnership and working together. This conflicts with the widely held religious belief that women are inferior to men. It's mentioned many times in the bible, and lots of preachers still talk about how women should serve their man and be submissive. Today, women are still not allowed to be catholic priests. At marriage class, you'll be told it's a partnership, then in church you'll be told that women should be submissive. Which one is it?It's not about going against anyone's doctrine
Isn't that lovely. Your marriage councilor is trying to argue that sex brings people closer together, but church is saying that you should feel ashamed and dirty after having sex. Anything about sex taught in marriage class would go against many religions, unless the marriage class serious tried to argue that you should be as non-sexual as possible.The study found that in individuals, the stronger their religious beliefs were the more powerful their feelings of sexual regret.
Of people raised in very religious homes, 22.5 per cent said they were shamed or ridiculed for masturbating compared with only 5.5 percent of people brought up in the least religious homes.
Some 79.9 per cent of people raised in very religious homes said they felt guilty about a specific sexual activity or desire while 26.3 per cent of those raised in secular homes did.
Worryingly, children raised in strongly religious homes were more likely to get their sex education from pornography, as they were not confident enough to talk with their parents.
However, there was some good news for religious groups. People who had lost their belief and became atheists reported a significant improvement in sexual satisfaction.
People who had left their beliefs behind said their sex lives were 'much improved' and rated their new experiences on average as 7.81 out of ten.
The finding dispelled conventional wisdom that feelings of guilt can continue to trouble people after the religion has faded.
'We did think that religion would have residual effects in people after they left but our data did not show this. That was a very pleasant surprise. The vast majority seem to shake it off and get on with their sexual lives pretty well,' Darrel told alternet.org.
He added: 'Our data shows that people feel very guilty about their sexual behavior when they are religious, but that does not stop them: it just makes them feel bad.
Because people think they have enough skills and won't listen anyway. It's only when they're in a crisis that ANY of this kind of stuff can sink in, and even then, they usually only pay attention to just enough to get out of their most severe pain. Then they go back to their own way of doing things.
Thanks, Mr. K, for the "women are gold-diggers" rant. Now, Back on point.Thanks, Shawn, for the "religious people are idiots" rant. Now, back on point.
Good idea. Young couples need to understand the phenomena of women checking out of marriages. Young men need to understand the dynamics that the young, loving wife in your perfect marriage may really want to see a boulder drop on your head. After upping the life insurance, of course.