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My husband of 18 years is starting to text a previous coworker...at least I've started to notice. Is it innocent? He doesn't tell me about them and he rarely erases texts, except hers. He also gets emails, voice mails and calls from her occasionally. He doesn't do it often, though he does have a different phone at his office and voice mail which I never see. A few months ago I saw an exchange between them, where she sent a text and asked him to be on the lookout for a reference request for a job. She also left a voice mail on his phone, which sounded innocent enough, but the voice was so sing songy and high pitched that I barely recognized her. She said it was for a Directors position and she knew he would do her justice. He said it will be exceptional! He said if you get that job will you even still talk to me. She said, "of Course", you'll never get rid of me. He said, "that's a good thing, as much as I hate to admit it, I miss you! She sent back, Thanks. and BTW.....I miss you too. She said when are you coming back to Dallas? He told her Nov. 10, 11, 12. I didn't know he had business nearby and told me at the last minute that he was going to go by Dallas to visit our grown daughter and family since he was so close. He did do that, but there was some unaccounted for down time, that he seemed to be secretive about. I know they were close and he had lunch at least twice the previous year that I found out after they had both moved on from the same employer. He was her boss. She did some consulting work at his request at his new company after we had moved....across the country. She came out and spent several days working in his office a couple of different times. He always picked her up at the airport and dropped her off at her hotel room after group dinners...a couple of which I was asked if I'd like to come. They did seem a bit "guarded" together, at least when I was around. This was at least a year and half ago. They do stay in touch. I found an email last week, asking for another reference, he said of course he would "do her proud". Then he said in a later text, Got it and done...you owe me a drink! She said I would love to spend time with you and buy you a drink, I miss you! and BTW thanks. He said you are VERY welcome. I do know they talked for several minutes in between the two emails. I don't know that they have the time to actually see each other, but then they do both travel a lot, so I would never know. I did confront him about the visit to our daughter and he said he DID NOT see her when he was there. At first he said he didn't even talk to her, while there, but then tripped himself up after another question and said he had actually talked to her and "oh yeah, her husband too." He acted very suspicious. Do you think it is innocent, or trying to have his relationship with her....in the very least emotional, if not physical?
