It is very strange and only makes sense if his wife told him that she thinks her husband is suspicious of us. So he following that adage of keep your friends close and your enemies closer.
I too wonder if he really missed the NYE event. Could that curt NY Day text exchange be a ruse to throw Adam off because she knows he’s monitoring her.
A wife blowing off NYE with her husband to go to some yoga retreat with some women she’s known a few months is a red flag. That she was dressing to the nines made it that much more suspect. Then she comes back and is over the top sexual with Adam when she returns? Guilty much?
To me, if he is there to try to sell that nothing is going on, that creates a couple of possibilities.
At a minimum, that states that OP'S W is having inappropriate conversations with Yoga Boy about things that are beyond his pay grade.
Other than that, that tact basically says they're bangin'.
To me, if one is stupid enough to needlessly heighten the alert level in that fashion, they may as well admit it and own it.
My gut feeling is that either she came on to him, he didn't want it, and is going to tip OP off
or She came on to him, got a case of the guilts, ratcheted back, and Yoga Boy now has a case of the "Red A**," and he is going to rat her out.
I agree that the NYE event was a red flag, and should have been dealt with in a much more direct and forceful manner by the OP. There was not only the overdressing, there was also lingerie involved that would not necessarily be appropriate for a yoga event.
Her OTT reaction upon return indicates guilt at some level. Either guilt for what she did, almost did, or if she was shunned by Yoga Boy, what she could lose.
