I have been through a very abusive marriage. The last years were especially hard as the abuse escalated and it was phisical, verbal, emotional, financial and I also think sexual. My ex used to get mad if I didn't give in when he wanted and how he wanted. Once he used also force, I cried and asked him to stop, but he didn't. That is how I got my second child. Today I am far away from all this, I am safe, have my own place to live, a great job and together with my kids we enjoy our lives. A new partner is in my life now after many years in which I was single. I have a lot of fears. My greatest fear is that I am not able to see the red flags and he will turn out to be abusive too. I am also very afraid of the moment when we will be intimate. Should I tell him first of the abuse I have been through? Or it's better not to disclose so much. I could really appreciate your advice. Thank you!