Ive read conflicting things on this...some people say dont ever ever tell the inlaws if you are having problems in your marriage with their daughter, others say its a way to hedge against future problems. Me and the woman are having problems and her parents are like my own. I am really close to them. In the small chance that we split, I want to be the one to tell them about it and have a discussion with them since they have done so much for me. I guess my question is, should I say something now while it is rocky so that if crap does hit the fan Im not instantly the bad guy? Or is that opening a can of worms I dont want to open unless we are 100% ready to split?