I have been married for 22 years. Have 4 children. The last 3 years have not been very good. This past year has been the worst. In the spring I really thought about leaving and discussed this with him. I was getting bored with my life. Sex was just about non-existent. We quit doing things together. We were sleeping in separate rooms and hardly talking to each other and I'm sure my 2 children that still live at home could sense the tension. I was seeing a counselor for other reasons and told her about this situation. She suggested we both come in to see her. Husband agreed. We talked with her and I told them how I felt. Last year my mother passed away and it was like he didn't care at all. Did not console me at all. I felt so alone. Anyway, I read about this idea online. Both of us would write down things that we like to do and put them in a jar. Once a week we would take turns and pick from each others jar and plan to do what the slip of paper said. It worked fine for about a couple of months. The summer was busy and he would go to the parents cottage and I would stay home since I didn't feel comfortable there with the inlaws. On his short weekends I would plan little overnight getaways for us. October was our anniversary and we went on an overnight getaway, where, once again, I planned the getaway. I had a good time but did not feel connected to him like I use to. Since we got home we are back to being where we were not doing anything together. We are back to sleeping in separate rooms, which is ok because he snores terribly and I don't get any sleep. This past weekend we went out with friends, but I had to twist his arm to do that. He said he just wants to stay home and get stuff done.
Besides that I am hypothyroid(low). He has not been supportive or understanding about this at all. He thinks everything is all in my head and doesn't do anything to try to help. It would be nice if he cooked supper once or did dishes or something around the house. This thyroid disorder is really dragging me down. He really doesn't understand.
I'm really tired and on several occassions have considered just leaving, but I have my kids at home to think about.
I really don't think this situation is going to get any better. I feel the counseling isn't working anymore and I'm just not feeling the connection anymore.
Sorry for the long post and sort of ranting, but I am so confused and don't know what to do. I have not slept much in the last three nights. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Besides that I am hypothyroid(low). He has not been supportive or understanding about this at all. He thinks everything is all in my head and doesn't do anything to try to help. It would be nice if he cooked supper once or did dishes or something around the house. This thyroid disorder is really dragging me down. He really doesn't understand.
I'm really tired and on several occassions have considered just leaving, but I have my kids at home to think about.
I really don't think this situation is going to get any better. I feel the counseling isn't working anymore and I'm just not feeling the connection anymore.
Sorry for the long post and sort of ranting, but I am so confused and don't know what to do. I have not slept much in the last three nights. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.