You and your husband are good people, forgiving people.OP, I was talking to my husband about this earlier.
His first wife of 23 years cheated on him.
He says no, don't do it, not after all this time. He said that if you do, you will be responsible for hurting his innocent wife and children and grandchildren. You will be responsible for the potential devastation it may cause.
You are all in your 60's now, it is a long time ago. The affair ended 25 years ago. Let it go.
God gives us some free will.
Free will, to do our bidding and free will to do His Works, HIS WILL.
If there is punishment to be meted out HE will sometimes use us to carry out this action.
I see the need to punish this POSOM.
Any hurt that arrives at his families doorstep....he invited in.
When you play with demons you (very often) pay the price.
This horrible man delivered a lifetime of pain to our OP.
Back-payment is long-overdue.
Cuts that are not properly attended to, never heal.
Expose the little medicine man.