After nearly 25 years of marriage I found out that my husband had affairs with several woman over the past year. While I knew there were problems in our marriage I didn't realize how unhappy he was. I'm pretty sure this was a desperate attempt to encourage me to make the first move toward divorce. Fortunately it had the opposite effect and we are successfully rebuilding our relationship.
One of the women is a former girlfriend that some of his family members still hear from on occasion. My husband travels and visited with this woman and her husband without my knowing (She's about 2000 miles away). Shortly after this visit her husband died and my husband went back out and ended up in bed with her. I found out a few months later when his email was left open. To this day she is not aware that I know. One of my "issues" are some photos and artwork that she made for him 30+ years ago. While I'd love to just shred them and be done with it, I have a hard time destroying art and also want to let her know that I know. I told my husband that I was thinking about sending her the artwork and pictures (with him cut out). He supports whatever I need to do to get past "the past". She has tried to call on a couple of occasions but my husband does not take the calls. We really are doing what we can to move forward but some of the remnants of the past are still very close to the surface.
I have the package at my desk ready to ship, but am needing an outside opinion to verify it won't do more harm than good.
One of the women is a former girlfriend that some of his family members still hear from on occasion. My husband travels and visited with this woman and her husband without my knowing (She's about 2000 miles away). Shortly after this visit her husband died and my husband went back out and ended up in bed with her. I found out a few months later when his email was left open. To this day she is not aware that I know. One of my "issues" are some photos and artwork that she made for him 30+ years ago. While I'd love to just shred them and be done with it, I have a hard time destroying art and also want to let her know that I know. I told my husband that I was thinking about sending her the artwork and pictures (with him cut out). He supports whatever I need to do to get past "the past". She has tried to call on a couple of occasions but my husband does not take the calls. We really are doing what we can to move forward but some of the remnants of the past are still very close to the surface.
I have the package at my desk ready to ship, but am needing an outside opinion to verify it won't do more harm than good.