My husband wrote an email to his massage therapist in August and solicited a relationship, saying his intentions were purely "honorable" and that he had no interest in a "recreational" relationship. I found the email and on the advice of this board installed a keystroke logger and was able to access his work email account (different from personal account which I have pword to and which he stupidly left the massage therapist email in his sent folder). On the work account I found an email in 2008 written to a coworker asking her and her friend to meet him and his friend for drinks. This was a weekend I was out of town and he wrote in the email that I was out of town and that he wasn't going to tell me and that he was desperate for some "lighthearted fun". He wrote that if she wasn't interested he hoped she was flattered and that she would "burn after reading". I also found an email to this same coworker in May of this last year where he asked her to send him a friend invite on Facebook, saying he couldn't ask her to be a friend in case the "highly suspicious ball and chain" (meaning me) found it if he mistakenly left an email window open. I confronted him about the massage therapist email, printed it out and gave it to him, and he was remorseful and asked for forgiveness. I asked him at that time if he had every asked this coworker out and he said no, that he had only had coffee with her, but I didn't specifically say I knew about the emails to the coworker. We are doing better since the confrontation but I can't get these two emails to the coworker out of my mind, and for some reason lately its wearing on me. It almost feels worse than the massage therapist incident because I have met the coworker and its humiliating for him to speak of me this way to her. I am not sure what to do at this point. He won't go to marriage counseling and basically wants to continue forward as if nothing happened. We have two kids and I want to try to stay married to keep our family together but these emails are eating me up. I am watching his emails now and I see no evidence that he is contacting anyone else. Should I confront him about the coworker emails or just let it go? Since I got into that account using a keystroke logger it will be difficult to explain how I saw the coworker emails and he will be defensive and point the finger at me for spying on him. Any advice would be appreciated.