Hello everyone. I am in need of some advice. I want to write this in as unbiased a way as possible so I can get accurate responses from everyone.
My wife and I have been married for 13 years and we have had a few rough spots but for the last year things have been better than ever. We have both agreed to this on several occasions. For the past few months, I guess I have been overly engrossed in playing a certain video game called League of Legends. It has been a great way for me to unwind after work and I would often play with my 10 year old son.
On nights I played, it was two or three 30-45 minutes games 4 or 5 days a week. I would play more games on a Saturday or Sunday. I am telling you this part because it is part of her reason for the situation we are in now.
A few months ago my wife got a job at a company and works with a bunch of guys. After a few months she decided to leave the job because she wasn't getting paid what she deserved, it was a really long commute and we have two young kids at home that were having a hard time with her schedule.
She got along really well with her boss who is a guy that is her age, married and has kids of his own. They really hit it off and my wife was totally open to me about it.
After she quit, they started talking more and would text each other a lot. It has been probably over a month since she quit working.
They txt each other all day long and will talk to each other during the day for an hour or so at a time. Again, he texts him in front of me and is in no way hiding it.
One day I ended up really upset about the situation and ended up staying awake all night long. The next morning I went to work and logged into our Verizon account and saw how much she was talking and texting this guy. It was literally from the time she got up to the time she went to bed.
I asked her if she ever deleted his messages and she said, Yes I did delete some cause I didn't want you to misconstrue them. It was all the conversations she had with him up unto the day I confronted her. A few day later she let me read the conversations after the initial delete and all and all they were harmless.
The thing is... she talks to him ALL The time. She says he makes her feel good and she became friends with him while I was zoned out in my video game and movies.
I can understand that to a degree, but I am totally feeling like a third wheel and like she and this guy have a secret thing going on that I am not allowed to be apart of.
THere is more I suppose... but I don't want to be toooooo overwhelming.
Thanks.
My wife and I have been married for 13 years and we have had a few rough spots but for the last year things have been better than ever. We have both agreed to this on several occasions. For the past few months, I guess I have been overly engrossed in playing a certain video game called League of Legends. It has been a great way for me to unwind after work and I would often play with my 10 year old son.
On nights I played, it was two or three 30-45 minutes games 4 or 5 days a week. I would play more games on a Saturday or Sunday. I am telling you this part because it is part of her reason for the situation we are in now.
A few months ago my wife got a job at a company and works with a bunch of guys. After a few months she decided to leave the job because she wasn't getting paid what she deserved, it was a really long commute and we have two young kids at home that were having a hard time with her schedule.
She got along really well with her boss who is a guy that is her age, married and has kids of his own. They really hit it off and my wife was totally open to me about it.
After she quit, they started talking more and would text each other a lot. It has been probably over a month since she quit working.
They txt each other all day long and will talk to each other during the day for an hour or so at a time. Again, he texts him in front of me and is in no way hiding it.
One day I ended up really upset about the situation and ended up staying awake all night long. The next morning I went to work and logged into our Verizon account and saw how much she was talking and texting this guy. It was literally from the time she got up to the time she went to bed.
I asked her if she ever deleted his messages and she said, Yes I did delete some cause I didn't want you to misconstrue them. It was all the conversations she had with him up unto the day I confronted her. A few day later she let me read the conversations after the initial delete and all and all they were harmless.
The thing is... she talks to him ALL The time. She says he makes her feel good and she became friends with him while I was zoned out in my video game and movies.
I can understand that to a degree, but I am totally feeling like a third wheel and like she and this guy have a secret thing going on that I am not allowed to be apart of.
THere is more I suppose... but I don't want to be toooooo overwhelming.
Thanks.