He treated you like yesterday's news. How disrespectful can someone be?
I say you get everything that the law entitles you to
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Whose assets? Not his - MARITAL assets.There's something missing in the story : Why did he throw you out of the house? What happened?
Also, why do you want any portion of his assets?
Maybe you could elaborate on what you mean by verbal and emotional abuse. So far it's hard to judge whether he was being reasonable or unreasonable because we have no background. It's vague at the moment as to what exactly happened.He kicked me out after I tried to have a discussion (in public) asking him to stop the verbal and emotional abuse. It set off a firestorm of anger and rage that escalated for a couple of days that I waited out because I thought it would simmer out. But it didn't, he got angrier and kept ordering me to leave... yelling "what part of leave did you not understand?" etc. It was scary.
The community assets, that is everything either of us acquired during the marriage, are legally OUR assets, and the state awards each party 50/50 (typically) in a divorce. I want them because after being displaced, I'd be at near poverty level if not for my family's help.
From what has been said by the OP so far, what logical basis do you have for making any of those assumptions? In other words, how do you know that any of what you have said is actually what is going on?This is definitely a touchy subject because in a truly abusive relationship, the abused partner may not be 'allowed' to earn her own money or have any access to money. It's part of the abuse and control -- and it's done precisely to put the wife (usually) in the position the OP is in now. Not having anything to start over with, and being told she gets nothing because he earned it all.
If you are an abuse survivor, sweetie, roast his ass but good. You more than earned it. You'll need money for therapy, if nothing else. (hugs) to you.
It sounds like you think I'm interested in your opinion of whether or not I was abused. I'm not. Re-read the subject title.Yes she did mention verbal and emotional abuse. But that's all she has mentioned. She hasn't gone into any details as to what exactly was said, or any background whatsoever. It seems a bit unusual to go into a lot of detail about everything else but not the very fundamentals of it, the reason why it all started. I would assume that anyone asking for advice would want to provide us with everything that there is to know in order to make any sort of judgment. For all we know, it might not have been abuse at all, or it could have been abuse, but we don't know because she has chosen not to elaborate. She has called it emotional and verbal abuse but we don't actually know that it is, hence the lack of logical basis for making the assumption that it is. We still don't know what he said, the context in which he said it, or the circumstances surrounding it. If she wants advice, the least she could do is provide us with the whole story. As far as her not earning any money, she got laid off.