I don't know what I imagined, but not this..!
H and I have been together 2yrs. I have never seen his ex tho she lives in the same town. H was with her for about 4 yrs and had two children. He mentioned she had put on weight post babies.
H and I are exactly the same height and I am a little self conscious of being about 15 pounds overweight and actually heavier than him. He is average build. I have quite large breasts some stubborn belly fat and extra padding, but mostly fit and active.
Sex is really important to us both and is a daily occurrence. H is always saying how attractive he finds me etc
Ok, so during a clean up I come across photos of his Ex while he was with her and see she is obese in fact probably what you'd call morbidly obese.
I'm sort of stunned. Doesn't make me feel good. I'm looking at H differently, I know he has a high sex drive. He's commented he would never be in a relationship with a woman who didn't like sex.
Something inside my head is saying 'why am I trying to stay attractive for you when it's clear you would f*** anyone!! im not meaning to be offensive to obese people, but im having trouble grappling with this huge discrepency in body types and whats sexually attractive to my H. I have long toned legs and his ex had enormous legs like tree trunks and couldn't even sit properly!!
I don't think he left her because of her weight, but because of other issues.
I read posts here about spouses being turned off by weight. But does it not matter at all to some men?
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H and I have been together 2yrs. I have never seen his ex tho she lives in the same town. H was with her for about 4 yrs and had two children. He mentioned she had put on weight post babies.
H and I are exactly the same height and I am a little self conscious of being about 15 pounds overweight and actually heavier than him. He is average build. I have quite large breasts some stubborn belly fat and extra padding, but mostly fit and active.
Sex is really important to us both and is a daily occurrence. H is always saying how attractive he finds me etc
Ok, so during a clean up I come across photos of his Ex while he was with her and see she is obese in fact probably what you'd call morbidly obese.
I'm sort of stunned. Doesn't make me feel good. I'm looking at H differently, I know he has a high sex drive. He's commented he would never be in a relationship with a woman who didn't like sex.
Something inside my head is saying 'why am I trying to stay attractive for you when it's clear you would f*** anyone!! im not meaning to be offensive to obese people, but im having trouble grappling with this huge discrepency in body types and whats sexually attractive to my H. I have long toned legs and his ex had enormous legs like tree trunks and couldn't even sit properly!!
I don't think he left her because of her weight, but because of other issues.
I read posts here about spouses being turned off by weight. But does it not matter at all to some men?
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