I wish he was anyone else. Anyone, other than the dude that was dating my wife while I was married to her. Before the divorce was a decision, during the divorce, and the month I lived at the old house before I found mine to move to, she was going out with this "friend". This wasnt the dude she had previously said was her soulmate, and which led me to dig and find that indeed she was having at least an EA. Up until that point I was told that she was simply feeling empty about our own marriage and wasnt sure about it. Then I found out about dude #1. Now this second guy, evidently seeing an opportunity present itself in my married wife, was present and that presence ensured there was not to be any working of things out between us. It is as if the ex had reached a point where getting away from our marriage was the only option for her.
I wasnt a bad husband or friend or Dad. I took care of things, I kept a steady job, I wasnt an alcoholic or gambler or abusive physically or mentally. I expressed love and up to the point of being blindsided with the news that she was feeling empty about the marriage, nothing led me to believe something was wrong until she said so. Asking, led no where. I always got the "nothing" response.
Yesterday, when I picked my kid up from the old marital home, (this being a year and a few months after divorce), I heard thru the door my daughter saying goodbye to the ex's guy #2 that she moved in a few months after I moved out.
So thru his support of the destruction of my marraige, and the ex ushering him right into place in the marital home, he gets to have a great cordial friendly relationship with my kid, and she doesnt understand what he and the ex did.
To me, hes the bad guy!! Sounds silly I know. And of course I dont want my daughter to have a bad relationship with whomever her mom moves in over there, but this guy was instrumental in the destruction of my family. Now he gets to play family with them, and I get to shove off to live by myself and see my kid every other week, the same amount of time he does.
Doesnt really make me feel like Im much of sh!t at all.
Having a family and a child was so much more valuable to me than it appears a lot of people feel towards it. Ive done a lot in life, accomplished a lot of things, but the greatest was to experience the joy and personal growth that being a family man was. And now, the "Bad guy" is just fking handed the golden ticket. And Im sure he prides himself in ingratiating himself with my kid, and im sure the ex is happy to see that such a position can be filled by just any old slop of a man.
I hate this. I hate how the powers that be just allow this to be.
Its like a sh!t sandwich that you just have to eat and "try not to dwell on". Ive NEVER been one to do "nothing" about something so deeply effecting of my life.
This is a fkin travesty of the highest order, and its like seeing one of the last things worthy of any value at all about myself being gifted to a homewrecker.
Thats MY daughter..
I wasnt a bad husband or friend or Dad. I took care of things, I kept a steady job, I wasnt an alcoholic or gambler or abusive physically or mentally. I expressed love and up to the point of being blindsided with the news that she was feeling empty about the marriage, nothing led me to believe something was wrong until she said so. Asking, led no where. I always got the "nothing" response.
Yesterday, when I picked my kid up from the old marital home, (this being a year and a few months after divorce), I heard thru the door my daughter saying goodbye to the ex's guy #2 that she moved in a few months after I moved out.
So thru his support of the destruction of my marraige, and the ex ushering him right into place in the marital home, he gets to have a great cordial friendly relationship with my kid, and she doesnt understand what he and the ex did.
To me, hes the bad guy!! Sounds silly I know. And of course I dont want my daughter to have a bad relationship with whomever her mom moves in over there, but this guy was instrumental in the destruction of my family. Now he gets to play family with them, and I get to shove off to live by myself and see my kid every other week, the same amount of time he does.
Doesnt really make me feel like Im much of sh!t at all.
Having a family and a child was so much more valuable to me than it appears a lot of people feel towards it. Ive done a lot in life, accomplished a lot of things, but the greatest was to experience the joy and personal growth that being a family man was. And now, the "Bad guy" is just fking handed the golden ticket. And Im sure he prides himself in ingratiating himself with my kid, and im sure the ex is happy to see that such a position can be filled by just any old slop of a man.
I hate this. I hate how the powers that be just allow this to be.
Its like a sh!t sandwich that you just have to eat and "try not to dwell on". Ive NEVER been one to do "nothing" about something so deeply effecting of my life.
This is a fkin travesty of the highest order, and its like seeing one of the last things worthy of any value at all about myself being gifted to a homewrecker.
Thats MY daughter..