I have been married for over twenty years. have two great kids. one in college, the other in high school. My wife and I started with almost nothing, stayed at our jobs and have become pretty sucessful. We are not rich, but we always got by.My wife runs the finances. I just make sure my checks keep coming in. Over the years I guess I was caught up in trying to make sure we were ok financially. fast foward to my daughter going to college. Our finances became very strained and along with all the other bills piling up, now my wife has found this hatred towards me. I have been acused of almost everything that has made our marriage bad. she wants to just bail out now, split everything and move on. I don't htiink this is her speaking really but i don't think that splitting up is the anwser. if we are having problems payning bills together, splitting up and trying to sync bills together will be a nightmare. can anyone please give me some advice? comments please? I don't know what to do.