I am having a really hard time understanding my finacee... we were recently engaged and things are developing as they should....we recently had two long discussions on how we are feeling about eachother....She tells me she is in love with me and my heart believes this to be true... so I asked her what her biggest fear is about me is....I was expecting something that maybe I don't notice that i do, but she said it was when she wants to go out with her friends that I may have a fit .....
I told her that her statement has nothing to do with me, and I now am disappointed in her because if this is the biggest fear you have..... what confidence does that give me that she is serious about marriage if all she is worried about is going out with her friends? It came off as very immature as she has mentioned this twice....Ive said if before several times to her and I don't think she gets it...you can't have your cake and eat it too.... I am seriously doubting the marriage right now because there is no way I am going to spend my life with a woman that wants to reap all the benefits of having a husband but at the same act like doesn't have one.....my only concern is how to really let her know that her way of thinking is not going to benefit our future at all. I am posting this for insight because she does have great potential with me but I am not willing to move any further until she adjusts her thinking.....
I told her that her statement has nothing to do with me, and I now am disappointed in her because if this is the biggest fear you have..... what confidence does that give me that she is serious about marriage if all she is worried about is going out with her friends? It came off as very immature as she has mentioned this twice....Ive said if before several times to her and I don't think she gets it...you can't have your cake and eat it too.... I am seriously doubting the marriage right now because there is no way I am going to spend my life with a woman that wants to reap all the benefits of having a husband but at the same act like doesn't have one.....my only concern is how to really let her know that her way of thinking is not going to benefit our future at all. I am posting this for insight because she does have great potential with me but I am not willing to move any further until she adjusts her thinking.....