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Good morning all,
Let me start off by giving you some background. My wife and I married three years ago and are very, very young. She is 21 and I am 23. We've been living together for more than four years. Like most young couples, we were extremely excited when we first moved in together and couldn't wait to spend time with each other. We have had great times together and love each other very much.
Fast forward three years later, here's the situation. I have no control over my own life. She has become this controlling person and I feel like there's no escape. She is extremely jealous and micromanages me at all levels. I am not allowed to:
-Go to public places by myself without being interrogated about the women I saw, if they were attractive, etc.
-Listen to female artists
-Have a Facebook account
-Have a twitter account
-Watch movies in which women are present, say I like a movie in which a woman is present, read books in which women are present (e.g. A Severed Head)
-Obviously no female friends or acquaintances (my two best friends happened to be women before we married, she refused to even meet them in person and have not talked to them in over three years)
-etc...
My last year in college was hell, since it involved meeting in groups and working with other class members to work in projects.
We tried therapy, and the therapist sided with me and tried to make her understand I am an adult and I can make some of my own decisions. We have no kids, she has cheated on me twice. I love her. Am I an idiot?
Also, I happen to be a really emotional guy. She has made me cry a lot.
Please help me.
Let me start off by giving you some background. My wife and I married three years ago and are very, very young. She is 21 and I am 23. We've been living together for more than four years. Like most young couples, we were extremely excited when we first moved in together and couldn't wait to spend time with each other. We have had great times together and love each other very much.
Fast forward three years later, here's the situation. I have no control over my own life. She has become this controlling person and I feel like there's no escape. She is extremely jealous and micromanages me at all levels. I am not allowed to:
-Go to public places by myself without being interrogated about the women I saw, if they were attractive, etc.
-Listen to female artists
-Have a Facebook account
-Have a twitter account
-Watch movies in which women are present, say I like a movie in which a woman is present, read books in which women are present (e.g. A Severed Head)
-Obviously no female friends or acquaintances (my two best friends happened to be women before we married, she refused to even meet them in person and have not talked to them in over three years)
-etc...
My last year in college was hell, since it involved meeting in groups and working with other class members to work in projects.
We tried therapy, and the therapist sided with me and tried to make her understand I am an adult and I can make some of my own decisions. We have no kids, she has cheated on me twice. I love her. Am I an idiot?
Also, I happen to be a really emotional guy. She has made me cry a lot.
Please help me.