Three weeks ago is probably when the actual physical affair started.Well at 4 am she noticed i wasn't sleeping se we talked and hesitantly she agreed to do counciling. I told her she was either all in with the counciling or no go. i said i cant wait a year to see how you feel about us, we either work towards this now or Lets just end this now and save time. She said no dont i will do the counciling. I also told her that I want to strengthen our spiritual foundation as a couple which is weak also. thanks cc48kel. I didnt want to pull the rip cord just yet. She told me that 3 weeks ago she was ready to end the marriage but since we've been talking and working on this she is not sure thats what she wants. Hopefully the councilor will help her understand the phase she is going through.
Sorry PaulPaul but we here at TAM have seen this play out a thousand times. The general plotline never changes.
Hire a PI to track her and dig up info. It will be the best $1,200 you ever spent in your life.