I am new to this forum and feel this is the only outlet i have to air my concerns, maybe just maybe someone with the right advice can help me. I have been married to my husband for five years, i left my family, my country everything to be with him. The man i feel i fell in love with was just a facade becasue when he was with me in my country he was a completely different person. When i came to be with him here this other person greeted me. My husband lied to be about so many things that came to my attention when i was here and worst off all the person that he is, is the person that his family know him to be. i am the only one that is in shocked. My life is very consevative and i am very religous and i thought him to be at lease thatw as the person i saw when we were in my country we went to church etc and i loved that. I came here and he was very verbally abusive his relationship with his mother is highly volitile they curse, spit and hit each other. I was so crushed by what i saw, my husband has shown that he has a temper, i hate arguements and would perfer to run and cry than to be confrontational this has led to him restraining me as he put it from leaving the room. I hate that i have been demeaned so much by my husband so many times i believe that he has some mental issues . I love him but more so my heart goes out to him because of the issues he still has unresolved with his mother since his childhood that has left him scarred. Most of our problem has a correlation with his mom. My husband does not like as he termed "strong women" and because i express myself when he hurts me i am deemed disobedient he would make horrible statements such as" i am another loud mouth black woman" i have never raised my voice to him because my culture frowns on such behavior but if he does something that is not right i would bring it to his attention he would then say " little asian women don't do that to their husband that's why they are taking away the westren men" i am very very confused and at my wits end he has reduced me to a shell of my former self because i don't smile anymore and i dont know what to do to make it better.