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Thanks for your input brother.
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It's being said in front of you because you allow it. You're unwilling to be confrontational with another man so you wife respects him more than she does you. And let's him walk all over you.
When I first started dating my wife some ahole neighbor would come over and edge her lawn. Even after he knew we were dating I'd find the lawn edged. So I told her I didn't like it. Guess what? Next month the lawn was edged again. So over to his house I went and told him in a nice way to knock it off. That's all it took. Never happened again. You don't always have to get in a fist fight to show dominance.
When I first started dating my wife some ahole neighbor would come over and edge her lawn. Even after he knew we were dating I'd find the lawn edged. So I told her I didn't like it. Guess what? Next month the lawn was edged again. So over to his house I went and told him in a nice way to knock it off. That's all it took. Never happened again. You don't always have to get in a fist fight to show dominance.
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Thank you I am going to work on myself with that I am never saying I am 100% right and she is 100% wrong Noone is.nothing is perfect. But thank you I understand.
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I'm just curious koop you seem to be a dedicated loving husband father and family man. In your heart do you feel your wife is and always has been faithful to you through your marriage and knowing her? Yes or no?
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Yes.
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Okay then, what advice are you looking for on here?
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Just to see if I was crazy and how to handle it with out yelling or violence.
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If you don't believe she is cheating then what are you feeling crazy about? If you believe her it shouldn't matter what anybody says to you, because you believe her when she said she isn't cheating right?
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Yes and no I have a detective mindset so everyone is a suspect,until proven otherwise,the one thing is she never stopped him that was a big read flag and I don't want to be the couple that in the first 2 years in white couples if the man says he doesn't like his wife's guy pal it usually ends in divorce, look it up.i usually act crazy and angered when I was young I had toxic traits so I am trying this approach wanted to see what total strangers thought because you guys don't know us so there is no emotional attachment. You understand?
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I understand perfectly. What did your wife say when you asked her if she would be okay you talking to another woman the way she does with OM with the sexual innuendo?
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I don't completely agree with this. There is a lack of respect for him and the marriage that she is exhibiting when she let's someone say something that inappropriate in front of her husband with no challenge. Also when taking sides against her husband. And bringing a guy into her truck (with a bed), very sketchy. She is on the road a lot, with lots of opportunity to cheat if she chose to. She may not chose to, but she still owes it to her husband to show she is trustworthy yet she has engaged in a whole lot of activity that is making him question her loyalty. Now he is going to be constantly stressing over that when she is away from home.
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Of course she said she would be okay with it, otherwise she would be calling herself a hypocrite. She isn't going to do that, cheating or not.
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She said it wouldn't bother her ,because she knows who I am coming home to,and it's not as if I would be saying anything back,which she never did she didn't even laugh,but it was the silence of it all and how long it went on, it just seemed like dude is a relationship predator and he wanted what I had,his intention was not good,and he was not a freind of the marriage.
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Okay so if she doesn't care about your interaction with other women as long as yourcoming home to her I'm guessing she wants you to feel the same about her interaction with other men.. so with that being said is this the marriage you want with your wife?
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No but we are going to try and communicate and set boundaries and work on it we only been married 3 years today.and neither of us had good relationships or child hoods lots of trauma ptsd.
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I have a pretty good feeling if she still thinks she did nothing wrong that isn't going to happen. I'm on your side. I feel there is a boat load of stuff she has said and done you have no idea about. I don't think she is going to change especially if she feels she has done nothing wrong. People only change if THEY want to. Not for anyone else. I'm sorry but that's the truth.
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It doesn’t matter what she thinks. You know they both did something wrong. Very disrespectful by both of them. But your wife is married to you. She should be more respectful of your wishes and feelings. She would definitely not be ok with the tables turned, no matter what she says.
She’s not a keeper.
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Quoting this because it is spot on.^^^
I'd wager a good sum she has already been sleeping with this douchebag. The humiliation thing is him playing bull over the cuckold and she is fine with that.
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Ok, so I'm a bit late to this party. Guy, I do t know why you've stood by and let all this even happen! Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. Why? Why have you just whined like this. First that crap wouldn't happen a third time with this guy. He would have heard more than enough from me as well as the HR department there! If that didn't work, then we'll theres a house he lives at and a private visit would be in order! Unless you're afraid of this guy. Second, my wife would have definitely recieved a wind tunnel hairdo for even allowing this to go on. Shes no friend to your marriage. She also sees you as weak now and has lost respect for you because you sat back and did nothing but do that kinder gentler little talkie, talkie talk with the guy and her. Wheres your dignity, self respect? Do you even have that now being pushed into the corner by them both. Do nothing and its going to get worse. Either you set firm and real boundriesro them both, with real consequences or your just gonna keep being a whiney doormat.
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Yeah the fact that she went to his house must mean nothing at all.
Id say your blind as a bat but at least they have echo location.
You need to wake up.
I know I know I know …. her ovary made her do it 🙄
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