Kissing - is a big thing. And this tight lip behavior was a strong signal from your wife - to you.
Why have you not asked her about this issue which is now four years in the making?
Answer. Asked her many times, she doesnt answer, moves her face away with tightly closing the lips.
It is a bad sign (statistically) when a married person (man or woman) invests a lot of effort into making themselves more attractive, but clearly lacks desire for their partner. Sometimes this is simply a pre departure training regime so they can hit the ground running in their post divorce dating activities.
Answer. Its Puzzling, thats why I came here to seek answers, as she wont go to a therapist with me. The forum has also pointed many things which i also need to introspect. But still unclear ... abt major issues.
I have no idea whether your wife is or is not faithful to you. I will say that I find it odd that you are so certain that she is faithful given that in the modern world - people have lunch breaks and can use those however they wish.
1. You appear to be afraid to ask her basic questions such as - why don’t you kiss me like you used to?
Answer. No answer mostly, once she answered she finds wet. *now mouths cants be dry in french kiss / or intense smooch.
2. Why have you lost your desire for me?
Answer. Asked many times, no concrete answer... usually.. that I am a pervert.
3. Do you want me to be more rough when we have sex?
Answer. For Rough Sex .. She must first atleast to have sex... its tremendous task to make it possible. With clothes on too much of roughness is not possible. Poses needs to be changed. Fore play, spanking .... the way she does sex by fingering ... technically its not possible.
4. Are you turned off or resentful of the fact that you make more money than I do?
Answer. I am turned off for earning more or less. This might affect her but not me. As I believe for a businessman ... financial ground is ever-changing and ups and downs are reality to admit. Out of experience, In india 2 types of women are difficult to handle - a. financially independent b. women who are does not have any brains of there own and are governed by there mothers and sisters on how to behave in marital home.
If you wish to fix your sex life you need to overcome your fear of having a painful conversation with your wife, which means overcoming your fear of her. In my experience, the avoidance of these type questions has a single root cause - fear. And generally speaking, a fearsome partner, is not attracted to their fearful spouse.
Answer. You are correct, In India, Dominating men who can keep things straight with there terror at home have very obedient wives. Or Financially Dominant men also have very obedient wives. Exceptions are there. If you given equality at home in India, in majority of cases power tussle begins, where both spouses are earning. Its difficult to find balanced houses. Thats why the divorce rates are going very high in India now days. But there are good women too, who are not affected with this all this, its family values and type of education plays a big role. (All above is general discussion, not specific to my case). If I talk about my case, Fear is not issue. I would suggest, she thinks more herself more intelligent, multi tasker, much self aware. and might be considering me as foolish person than fearful. Many times she wants to dominate many things but i have created a balance for this.
One last thing. In most cases - trying to jam yourself into your partners calendar for X number of hours a week in the vain hope of getting laid more often - is extremely counterproductive. If your wife felt ignored or deprioritized, you would almost certainly know that by now.
Answer. Getting laid down with me is last on her priority list. I cant survive mentally if i am not getting laid down once or twice a week. She survives, I have never counted days .. but even after 10-20 days i have never seen her that eagerness in her to get laid down. As I told in previous posts laid down or sex .. is not the rite words... for past many years.. she wants to be fingered first and have orgasm with clothes on (Masturbating type). She isnt concerned about quality sex.