I'm currently separated. H had an affair, then a heart attack, then became verbally abusive (depressed and on a lot of sedatives). We have 2 kids at home.
I feel compelled to reconcile due to his health, the changes he is trying to make, and the kids. He's off the sedatives and we are doing intensive MC, he's very dedicated to it.
He's always had almost no sex drive. Since the heart attack and the new meds. he has none, I mean none, zero. Plus he is impotent.
My question is........if I go back....what can I do about the sex life? He's willing to try Viagra, that is how desperate he is to reconcile, and with his bad heart it could kill him. He has no interest in sex, it would only be to keep me. And that is a real turn off when someone is not into it.
At times I have a silly idea that if I could find a FWB on the side I could keep my family and my sanity. As H has no interest in sex sometimes this fantasy seems appealing.
What to do?
We are almost 2 months apart and being a part time mum is so damn hard.
I'm at a loss of what the hell to do with my life.
His affair really hurt me, btw he couldn't perform with her either, and the heart attack killed what little was there to begin with.
I feel compelled to reconcile due to his health, the changes he is trying to make, and the kids. He's off the sedatives and we are doing intensive MC, he's very dedicated to it.
He's always had almost no sex drive. Since the heart attack and the new meds. he has none, I mean none, zero. Plus he is impotent.
My question is........if I go back....what can I do about the sex life? He's willing to try Viagra, that is how desperate he is to reconcile, and with his bad heart it could kill him. He has no interest in sex, it would only be to keep me. And that is a real turn off when someone is not into it.
At times I have a silly idea that if I could find a FWB on the side I could keep my family and my sanity. As H has no interest in sex sometimes this fantasy seems appealing.
What to do?
We are almost 2 months apart and being a part time mum is so damn hard.
I'm at a loss of what the hell to do with my life.
His affair really hurt me, btw he couldn't perform with her either, and the heart attack killed what little was there to begin with.