I'm in a bad place and any thoughts are appreciated. In short, married for over 10 years. Two small kids. Good life in general. Few years ago I had an email with old GF that wife found where we reminisced. Meant nothing to me really. But since then she has lost trust in me and won't forgive me. Prior to that and after, we stopped having sex - I guess due to life, kids, work, all bad excuses. The trust thing doesn't help at all I know. Talking about it causes fights, she doesn't want a therapist, she doesn't want to talk about the sex issue because she isn't comfortable with the topic or she blames me; which starts more fights. So I don't even go there. Now years have gone by; no intimacy at all. The "I love you's" seem to just be words. She cares about me, I know that. And we're good parents...but we're just living together raising kids. When I try to start a fire (simple kiss or ear kiss) she just doesn't seem to react to send any signal that she cares or wants to continue; so I back off and watch TV with her or something. Other times she sleeps, or is sick or something where I don't even try. So days go by, living our lives. She's a stay at home wife, I go to work, ho hum. I feel like we're here to keep the kids together with us, to deal with our tasks for the day or week, and to keep things together because of the convenience. But the lust isn't there. I feel like it's a lost cause, but I don't want to end it either. Advice?