Yeah I agree but the numbers I see don't reflect that as it seems like many are unhappy. I have said it before, a few of you have been fortunate to find comparable partners....the rest of us have to keep looking.Not really. @ccpowerslave said ( and sounds right to me ) that difference in ideal frequency of more than 3:1 HD:LD was trouble zone no matter gender. If a couple can't get to within that band, their marriage is headed for certain trouble. So if the OP you are thinking of is ok twice a month and his wife wants it every other day, that is a ratio of 1:7 husband:wife. She is going to be going for the pool maintenance guy or UPS delivery driver unless the husband more than doubles his effort.
Neither gender is going to want to live long with a dud for a partner in a marriage. Yes, maybe some will tough it out for decades because of the kids or finances or whatever. But it is like a box of dynamite in a hot storage building, just waiting for an opportunity to detonate. The HD partner's resentment builds to a breaking point eventually.
And why should they put up with it? We don't marry so we will have a golf partner or someone to watch TV with, or share the household chores with. How many guys on here complaining that they do all of the household chores and the wife still doesn't jump his bones? She didn't get married to have someone wash the dishes or clean the kitchen.
People get married to share sex with one another (a lot) and procreate. If that ain't happening, what is the point?
And I want to believe your last sentence is true about people getting married for sex but I just don't believe it based on what I have seen and read.