My wife and I have a total of eight years together. We just celebrated our fifth wedding anniversary. Our problem is this… we have different sexual needs. (I need it daily). (My wife needs it never… I just overheard her say, to a friend of hers, she only “puts out” to make me happy. We have sex maybe 2 or 3 times per month… maybe. The other 27 days I get rejected). It’s a really ****ty feeling to know that my wife isn’t interested me, physically, but I know I can go out one night and find several women that are able and willing.
It’s been so bad that I’m thinking of divorcing her. I don’t understand the point of marriage if physical intimacy isn’t something both people long for? My love language is Physical Touch…. So physical intimacy is very important to me.
I stay in our marriage so that I don’t lose time with our children. It may sound crazy… to me my children are as important as oxygen. I cannot leave my wife because I then lose time with my children.
We have both been with a lot of partners previous to the start of our relationship. She’s been with about 80 men. I’ve been with about 200 women. It’s very frustrating to know that my wife had such a feverish, sexual, appetite and could care less about our sex life. I took vows… so I will not step out on her but I’m in the prime of my life and my career. Sex, passionate, sweaty, playful, erotic, hot, steamy, loud, amazing, aggressive, lustful, connecting, sex is a craving for me. (Don’t wives need sex like I do or do women get married to trap men? I feel so trapped! I swear the only time she wants sex is either “to keep me happy” or upgrade her lifestyle by purchasing some big ticket item).
Some of you may say that I should try doting more on my wife…
Some of you may offer that she could be stressed with her career, chores and child rearing… we have three children… 11 year, 4 year and one year old.
Some people may respond to my thoughts with: are you an Alpha male? Women long for decisive, strong, confident men… blah blah blah…
I do not and will not apologize for my sexual cravings. I am a man that knows exactly what I want from life. I am very open to telling people exactly what I need from them… at work and at home. (How are people supposed to know what you need them to do if you don’t tell them?)
It’s absolutely embarrassing to be rejected constantly, by my wife, and then to overhear Her say… “I have sex with him to keep him happy”.
I have read posts on here about women in my boots and I just don’t understand how their men aren’t into the benefits of a healthy sex life with their women?
Should I stay or shoukd I go?…. Your thoughts?