How important is sex in your relationship?
1) Put down a picture of good looking food on a plate for dinner. When he asks about it say well I though you liked pictures better then the real thing.I do beleive sex is a healthy part of any relationship.
However my marriage is now lacking that. I find myself turned off because my husband does not spend any time with me, at night while I'm asleep he spends hours on the computer visiting porn sites. I know of these because I've checked the history and I find save photos under my c drive. I've asked him about it and he says he only does it for fun. I'm at a point where I don't want to deal with him anymore, because I feel he should be spending those long hours at night with me and not on a porn site.
Any ideas or comments.
I think sex is a necessity in marriage. I have recently been going through the fear that my wife is attracted to another, a guy she works with. Now, I am a fairly jealous person (because it has happened to me before), but some signs were there. We were not getting along, we weren't talking, and it was just a gut feeling. Anyways, I think sex is an intregal part, but my wife has seen it as more of a "duty". I have been doing some things differently (outside of the bedroom) and have seen a a huge improvement. The big thing i notice is my wife's sex drive is NOTHING like mine, and it never has been even when we were courting. So, it would stand that if i am not getting it at home, I need to get it elsewhere, but I DO NOT belive in that. Sometimes you just need to take care of business yourself, unfortunately.
No not every guy is like that.Hi, I'm new here but have the same issues with my husband.
My husband also likes to look at porn when I'm not around and it pisses me off! I have caught him masturbating to pictures of naked women several times and it hurts my feelings. When he lies about it I flip out. He has left some of these pictures out mistakenly and I found them. I have 3 daughters from a previous marriage and they just as easily could have found them.
He says his behavior has nothing to do with me or our relationship. He loves me and my body blah, blah....... If it upsets me than it does affect our relationship.
Does every man engage in this behavior?
There is nothing wrong with curiousity as long as it conforms to the agreement of the relationship you are in. Since he has no problem with you watching porn and you are not addicted to it I see nothing wrong with you viewing it.I look at porn more than my boyfriend. But he's sowed his oats; he's been with 6 other women besides me. I've only been with him, and am curious about other people, but am afraid that acting on that curiosity can upset my delicate emotional state regarding sexuality, what it means, and how it plays out in a relationship. There is potential on my side for pain and scarring if I explore.
Hi, new here.I look at porn more than my boyfriend. But he's sowed his oats; he's been with 6 other women besides me. I've only been with him, and am curious about other people, but am afraid that acting on that curiosity can upset my delicate emotional state regarding sexuality, what it means, and how it plays out in a relationship. There is potential on my side for pain and scarring if I explore.
I have found often sex drives are different and few things change them. I have talk about this often and normally healthy couples settle in the middle (A) likes 6 times a week were (B) likes once. They settle on three sometimes four. The fourth is normally a two for day. Health, jobs, kids, stress can all play a factor too.Hi, new here.
This is somewhat similar to my situation. My husband is a bit older and more experienced and I explore my sexuality through porn more than he does. I know that our relationship would never be an open one and if my desires became too much I would have to leave the marriage.
On the main topic, I think that sex is important in a relationship. My husband and I click on every level but sexually and it does create a strain. I sincerely hope that since we are compatible in every other way that will change with time and effort.
Okay touche let me redefine what I meant. Most healthy relationships have a good sexual base. You notice a drop in the sex as things are going bad and when thing are going good your tend to have more Intimacy.Someone once said that sex is like air: It only matters if you aren't getting enough.
In a happy relationship it's not as important in and of itself because it's part of the whole. In an unhappy relationship it because something you gauge the relationship on so it seems to matter more.
You know, I agree with you. Strangely in my situation though as our lives/relationship got better and less stressful we had sex less. I still don't understand this and neither does he.Most healthy relationships have a good sexual base. You notice a drop in the sex as things are going bad and when thing are going good your tend to have more Intimacy.
But doesn't this lead to Person A feeling unfulfilled and frustrated? He still likes it 6 times a week and isn't getting it.(A) likes 6 times a week were (B) likes once. They settle on three sometimes four.