I cannot tell you how important it is for husbands and wives to regularly put their needs aside and focus on serving their spouse in one way or another. Marriage is about giving of yourself and supporting your spouse. The bond that occurs when two selfless people are giving of themselves and trying to make their spouse happy is incredible. Selfishness in marriage often leads to emotional and/or sexual affairs, addictions, intense communiation problems, and distance between spouses. Selfless love is needed if a marriage is going to last.