Rob... easy tiger..was not kidding when i said that i know myself and i have a good self-esteem of myself. Fortunately I still have my brain on top of my head. i m planning to do it cause y alls comments confirm what i was already thinking.This is the part that it seems he's not willing to do (afraid, I guess). Unfortunately, in the end if he doesn't do it we all know where it all will end up.
The fact that i waited now 3 weeks/1 month after she moves is just because i wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt given that marriage, by Catholicism, is "in good or bad". This is the bad and i needed to see if it was a real down time for her cause by incomprehensions or down time cause she may look for something else.
As husbands i need to help her out as much as I can, as well as a wife she should do the same if i have a down period.
However, i understood in this time that she is the insecure one and as much as i can help her, she has to help herself first.
Sure it sucks but i need to have a conversation with her, tell her what it should happen in one way or another and wait her answer, whatever it is. i m not ready to move on yet (10 years is a lot of time to forget in a blink of an eye) but at the same time i m tired of this teenager bs approach.
will keep you guys posted. thank you for helping