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Ok. Long story short, I pushed my wife away with the no affection thing and she cheated.
She's cut contact. Got her a phone (only had 1 phone for a long time) ... cut to the chase.
Forget the past. My wife and I have a big history kinda thing here and it's one of those situations that is SUPER hard to tell on here.
Here's our Dilemma. Long story short (again) we're talking about things. We both don't really want a Divorce. She holds my hand and tells me she loves me, she'll ALWAYS love me, even through the worst of the worst of fights and drama sessions (not a lot of them either) but she said the ONLY reason for her issues, is that she loves me, but the "feelings" she thinks she should have isn't there. She's not "attracted" to me. She said if she had that, there wouldn't be a problem. Now, we did determine that she only lost the attraction after the blow up fight and her cheating. But she swears she doesn't want another man. I'm trying to be trusting and believe her.
WHAT do you do, if you both act like you want to work on the marriage and you're separated, (same house, HUGE building, old church in fact) and she's working on the attraction thing? What can I do? Are there any universal tricks to help out?
Thanks and I really do want to forgive and try to fix my family.
Dewayne
She's cut contact. Got her a phone (only had 1 phone for a long time) ... cut to the chase.
Forget the past. My wife and I have a big history kinda thing here and it's one of those situations that is SUPER hard to tell on here.
Here's our Dilemma. Long story short (again) we're talking about things. We both don't really want a Divorce. She holds my hand and tells me she loves me, she'll ALWAYS love me, even through the worst of the worst of fights and drama sessions (not a lot of them either) but she said the ONLY reason for her issues, is that she loves me, but the "feelings" she thinks she should have isn't there. She's not "attracted" to me. She said if she had that, there wouldn't be a problem. Now, we did determine that she only lost the attraction after the blow up fight and her cheating. But she swears she doesn't want another man. I'm trying to be trusting and believe her.
WHAT do you do, if you both act like you want to work on the marriage and you're separated, (same house, HUGE building, old church in fact) and she's working on the attraction thing? What can I do? Are there any universal tricks to help out?
Thanks and I really do want to forgive and try to fix my family.
Dewayne