So 14 years in. We have a 6 and 8 year old. My wife is a generally anxious agitated and angry person. I am the whimsical one. I’m at my breaking point on how she treats myself and the kids. Pre covid 19, she was constantly yelling at the kids because they weren’t getting dressed fast enough. Just all out losing her cool seemingly every day over something. Her response has always been “now you’ve ruined my day” kind of person. Covid 19 has really ramped things up and I totally understand and try to be patient but I feel her behavior is significantly affecting especially my 8 year old son and it kills me to see it. When confronted, it’s pushed back at me like how dare I. I could go on and on but don’t want to write a novel given this is my first post. Our marriage has never been healthy and our view of the world is completely opposite. I just can’t handle her actions anymore. This is environmental. She grew up in a house where her parents were fighting constantly screaming at each other. Driving cars over lawns and stuff like that. Her sister does the same in her house and it’s happening here and I can’t stop it. I know my kids and I deserve better. I’ve tried to help but she gets angry when I approach the situation and I just can’t handle anymore. Brought up the possibility of separation and again, how dare I. I’ve suggested counseling for us. She knows our son is having troubles but won’t agree to having him seen (she thinks he’ll be labeled but i think he and a counselor will figure otherwise). I’m doing what I can but deep down, I know this is not the life I or my kids should be living. Crazy part is she sees it as normal. I’m literally at a point that I feel the need to separate just so my kids can ultimately have time away to understand that it is not ok to be treated the way they are.