HI I have benn "separated" (not really though) since Jan. 2010. I have been living in the basement. My wife has been cought the 3rd time in an affair. 1st was a stranger, 2nd was a co worker, and 3rd was the boyfriend she she left for me. I have found out these affairs through internet chats and emails. I installed a computer monitoring program, a GPS vehicle tracking device both were on my belongings (van/computer) She has now been texting alot and the cell phone is in my name and I pay with my income, so should I cancel it seeings how I have never used it? I look at texts sometimes when she goes in the shower and see some very sexually oriented info.
We have been married for 13 years and have 3 amazing children. In January I have told her I wanted a separation, she asked for me to wait untill she is finished her schooling 1.5 years...what good does that do me?
Anyways, upon our "separating my wife has spent her March break with guy she is sexting with the, Ex-boyfriend, and each weekend she leaves for his house( 3.5 hours away) Yes we are separated, but I pay for these trips. She takes the vehicle leaving me with no means of travelling with my 3 children. I want out so bad...it's killing me. The question is is it concidered audultry when she does this because we are still married? I have gone to extremes by purchasing a Check Mate semen detection kit. I used it on her undergarments and sex toys she like to use during sex. And it came up posative for semen...What now? She has the good life...A husband who is there to watch and care for the children and clean house, she can go to school, leave for 3 - 5 days at a time with no questioning and get her sex fix, come back home to a husband who is stuck because he doesn't want to leave the kids or house. I wish there was an easy solution!!!
~Trapped~

We have been married for 13 years and have 3 amazing children. In January I have told her I wanted a separation, she asked for me to wait untill she is finished her schooling 1.5 years...what good does that do me?
Anyways, upon our "separating my wife has spent her March break with guy she is sexting with the, Ex-boyfriend, and each weekend she leaves for his house( 3.5 hours away) Yes we are separated, but I pay for these trips. She takes the vehicle leaving me with no means of travelling with my 3 children. I want out so bad...it's killing me. The question is is it concidered audultry when she does this because we are still married? I have gone to extremes by purchasing a Check Mate semen detection kit. I used it on her undergarments and sex toys she like to use during sex. And it came up posative for semen...What now? She has the good life...A husband who is there to watch and care for the children and clean house, she can go to school, leave for 3 - 5 days at a time with no questioning and get her sex fix, come back home to a husband who is stuck because he doesn't want to leave the kids or house. I wish there was an easy solution!!!
~Trapped~