After emailing them, it took 6 hours for the response. Her text to me: "hard to read" and "surreal". She knows I'm serious, and my only response to her was, "I will let the lawyer know it's a go."
The court date is 10/31, and seeing the final agreement, while sobering, didn't knock me out emotionally as I thought it might. The 180 has been a life-saver for me. Detaching, no contact except for essential child and divorce issues, not responding to her occasional efforts at small talk via texts.
Her life has been spiraling, health problems, can't find a decent job, growing debt, her old car breaking down... I seem to be going in the other direction. I have my daughter most of the time, she doesn't want to be around the AP, I've been saving money and enjoying going out to coffee shops by myself and hanging out with my grown sons.
Life is simple. I'm not lonely (yet). The weight of dealing with 6 years of her cheating being gone is so freeing. I had no idea how that was affecting me, but now that it's gone, I finally have peace. Oh yes, cheating is definitely abuse.
Yeah, once 6 years ago, the 1.5 years after that. I knew nothing back then. She was very sorry both times, our daughter was very young. I just sucked it up and carried on. Then I discover cheating from middle of last year, so I have no idea the true extent of it I'm sure.If only I knew then what I know now.....