How long since D day?
I do NOT slur mean words at him. I freaked out at him, threw stuff, got drunk and kicked him out the day I found out. I sent him a scathing email two days later outlining exactly what he was going to do, and spent maybe a couple more days lashing out at him. After that we hardly spoke for three months. When I decided to R, I stopped with the lashing out. In the over two years since then I have only had one blow up at him about his cheating, and that was in a counseling session. R will never work unless the BS deals with their anger some other way. When I ask about what he did now, it is very gentle and non accusatory.Those of you in R who have now-wonderful-once-was-wayward partners... how does your WS treat you when you act emotionally, furiously, and irrationally (and slur mean words at them)?
Wow, my wife actually said that to me once, I never thought I'd read someone else saying it.Sometimes I am jealous of the love he shows our dog.