This is also what I was thinking. Relationships are hard enough, communication is hard enough, but when you throw in the extra challenges, that compounds things immensely. I'm sure that he's a nice man, and I'm sure that you have some things in common, but for me, Aspergers/ADHD would be a dealbreaker. It's just not something that I would want to work around for the rest of my life.Why would someone even entertain the notion of getting involved in something like this?
@MarmiteC, your XH and former marriage sounds much like mine. I had suspicions that my XH is on the spectrum, and my therapist also suggested it; he's just never been tested.