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He betrayed you, so I think you are valid to still have these feelings. However, I think this is being swept under the rug too. Two years is an awful lot of taping, and what was he doing with all of it? Any idea if he uploaded some of them onto any of the porn sites? If he's also into porn, this should be a valid concern.
You are right that it was not "just a mistake". He deliberately made the decision to tape the two of you in secret for a long period of time.
The feelings and healing mechanisms are most likely very similar to infidelity. You may want to move this to CWI. Even though it does not involve infidelity with a 3rd person, it is still a betrayal on a very deep level. How is your husband getting help for this? Are you two in counseling? Sounds like he needs some help.
How is he rebuilding the trust with you?
You are right that it was not "just a mistake". He deliberately made the decision to tape the two of you in secret for a long period of time.
The feelings and healing mechanisms are most likely very similar to infidelity. You may want to move this to CWI. Even though it does not involve infidelity with a 3rd person, it is still a betrayal on a very deep level. How is your husband getting help for this? Are you two in counseling? Sounds like he needs some help.
How is he rebuilding the trust with you?
