[jaharthur]

is it possible for a man to do this to his wife and truly love and respect her?

No.

 

[jaharthur]

It's beginning to sound like kindergarten around here.

 

[jaharthur]

Sounds like they have both been jerks in the relationship. She's the one that had the affair!

Affair?

During those two years when we were having problems, I reached out to an old friend/ex. He lived across the country and I talked to him on the phone frequently for a matter of months. I confessed, and it was nothing ever physical or even more than catching up and talking about life

Some affair.