Hello..new here but sure hoping that i can find some help.I've been married to a beauiful woman for 16yrs, dated for 3 b4 getting hitched. We have 3 children(2 girls,1 boy). I have full time job and operate a farm operation with brother and father. I grew up on a farm as did she. We were both 26 when married..she took a job after the last child which got her out in front of people and lead to a lot of traveling..she has never been very out going or secure with her looks although she has never looked her age. The job has given her some confidence in her self that I could'nt have been happier for! She has so much talent and just needed to find that out for herself..She had been experiencing some physical issues around the age of 35-36..bladder issues that seemed to be infection, but after antibiotics then there was yeast infection.this see-sawed for 10 months till she can across the symptoyms relating to intestinal cystytis(break down of the bladder lining..extremly painful to say the least)...Long story made even longer but I'll fast forward to present. She dropped the bomb on me Oct 8 which was her 42 b'day..said that the passion was gone from how she looked at me and is thinking that it may never really was there..she cryed on our wedding nite..It came up in the discussion by me and she responded that it was b/c she was scared of what she had just done...Our sex life was good acorrding to her..I made it known that her needs were my first priority...I needed it to be good for her not just me..I was posibly not the most romatic guy but I always let her know that I loved her and was there when I was needed...she wants to move out to find if she really loves me or if she ever did in the first place..I reassured her that I was willing to seek some therapy if it was what would help us..she is seeing a therapist and I am as well...she is mad when I'm around and says that with me leaving love notes and texts for her that it makes her upset that she can't love me back like I love her..she says I deserve better cause she needs to work on her before she can even think of us...she allows me to sleep in the same bed but of course there is no physical contact of any kind..I told her that I was'nt giving up on us..she means too much too me...when I said this I put my arm around her and added that I did'nt expect anything to happen over nite..she replied "that's great cuz it isn't going to happen"..sounded very po'ed...I'm lost and don't know what to do..I know I should'nt but I feel hopeless and abandoned..can anyone offer me advice...I feel broken and lied too if infact she did'nt love me...we had great times and never would I have suspected that it was soo deep for her...