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Wow.. im beyond shock saw on my husband’s phone browser he was on a swinger forum page it was so quick i didnt see if it was a porn forum Or if he is really into being a swinger, the topic was about what kind of porn do you like to watch.. i see my husband as a good father not so much a good husband to me as he has some narcissistic characteristics and he calls me fat and tells me im unattractive.. hurt my feelins, gives me the silent treatment.. he is a religious and cultural guy talk nice to his family and showoff to his family but he treats me so bad soemtimes it hurts and im shock he is even on a forum like that.. it disgust me if he even daydream think to have sex with someone’s esle wife and me with thier husband.. yall i cannot look pass this i dont wven know how to approach him and its been 4 days and im just disgust at it.. i feel so gross out i dont know how i can look at him the same…im a hopeless romantics and he is not giving me any loving romantic feelings anymore im just hanging on day by day for my kids…. :(
You might want to look into your legal recourse in the case of a divorce without consulting him.

After all, he didn't communicate with you about swinging..


Maybe it's nothing but curiosity but his poor treatment of you is concerning and lends credence to his intentions about swinging.

Cover your bases and protect yourself and your children just in case.

Romantic women are a treasure and I'm so sorry your husband seemingly has squandered and disrespected his good fortune.
Women, who are romantic about their husbands, are high value women.

You have great worth. Please take measures to protect yourself and your children just in case.
 

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thank you, it’s been a couple days now and Ive clear my head a bit im pretty sure it is as what you are saying that he just fantasizing about it in the middle of the night and being on these forums cuz he is horny ect.. ( note we havent sleep together ever since 3 years now because i have 3 little ones sleeping with me on the king bed so he is sleeping in the other room plus he snores and need the fan on even if the ac is on it’s a habit so we havent really sleep together since.) with his hurtful remarks i barely care to approach him for sex as why should i? if he find me unattractive like i gave birth 6 months ago plus 3 other small kids and i barely have time to work out… the thjng that hurts the most still would be that he even have thoughts of it or fantasies makes me sick and have not look at him the same.. plus it would be a embarrassment to his family if he secretly does this and cheat on me ill be sure to tell his family the truth.
Uh oh. The foundations of your marriage are all messed up.

You two need to prioritize putting each other and your intimacy back in place.

You should not be sleeping with your children regardless of "reasons".

My wife stirs a lot and I can sometimes bring the house down with my snoring but our bedroom has always been our holy place and we work out our problems together.

I understand why you are looking at him differently now but don't you think he has been looking differently at you?

3 years not sleeping together and you are with the kids?

That's a very unhealthy dynamic for your marriage.
 
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