[RandomDude]

I will also add that I was in the swinging lifestyle for about 10 years and was on a variety of swinger sites and forums.
The vast majority of guys on there are just dreamers and wannabes and guys who watch too much porn and think they can get on there and find some porn chick that will blow them out of the blue.

a lot just want to check out pictures. Some couples are there to see if they can find any nakey pictures of their neighbors.

a few are tire kickers trying to see if they can work up the courage to actually do it.

And there are a good number that do give a try but fail and aren’t able to actually make it happen because they don’t have the temperament or the social and relationship skills to connect with other people while still maintaining a marriage. And quite a few guys are just too fat and unattractive to actually attract any women in the lifestyle.

my honest guestimation is that probably less than 10-15% of the people on any given swinger website or forum are actually bona fide active swingers that are actually meeting people and having any sort of actual sex.

the rest are dreamers and wannabes and nonhackers.

I admit a part of me is curious about finding a FWB for the purpose of joining in the fun. Another swinger friend mentioned to go in with a female.

Not attached anymore so I can do what I want, but now you make it sound so bleh

 

[RandomDude]

You'd have a million times more luck on a regular single's dating site or app or going out and meeting people in real life. Single men trying to hook up in the swing lifestyle are not even as popular as industrial sludge.

That's why I don't think the OP's husband is anything more than a dreamer and a choad.

Exactly why my swinger friend told me to bring a female lol

I'm more curious of this out of boredom, I'll likely not even go in unless I'm drunk 😅

 

[RandomDude]

Guys try that and it rarely works. Once people find out you're not an actual couple (and they will) they will try to get with her and will probably even ask you to leave.... but have her stay.

And why would any gal want to be some other guy's ticket? A woman has more options and opportunities on her own.

That's why the OP's husband is just dreaming and doesn't really stand a chance.

Hey it was my (female) swinger friend who suggested it

Of course it wouldn't be a girl just for a ticket, but a FWB who shares the interest who is also curious about ENM.
Not saying to grab one and immediately take her there, but if the opportunity ever presented itself, who knows.

But if it's that uninviting than probably not lol