Nicbrown summed it perfectly. We have months of perfect bliss then months of being out of synch. I am not much if a porn man myself but during the down spouts I will turn to other sources of stimulation until we get back on track - but in the end I am comfortable knowing what goes up will come down and visa vi (no pun intended several times in that last line)
Keep your wood up or your vibrator on- whichever it is!
This is us too, I think.
H pretty much leaves the sex up to me. If I want it, he's there. But he will never come find me looking for it. I have to initiate.
If I go awhile between initiating, he never says a word. He takes care of himself during the gaps. He has a very "whatever" attitude about it.
I am not sure if its because he's too lazy/unsure of himself to initiate, or whether he has the same feelings as the above...just knowing that eventually I will come to him looking for it. The longest gaps I leave him with are about 2-3 weeks on average.
I know he has a higher drive than me. But I guess he feels like the occasional 2-3 week gap is not enough to ruffle his feathers.
This dynamic has made sex a non-issue for us so far (eight years together).
I do wish he would initiate, and "take me" more often, but have never pushed the issue. Honestly, there would be no 2-3 week gaps if he made an effort to let me know he is in the mood. But, I guess that's just not him, and not sure I will ever fully understand it.
We both seem to have very laid back attitudes about it, and both continue to take care of ourselves when it seems like its just not gonna happen.
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