What always gets me pissed is when we have a nice moment, say around 10 p.m., I suggest making love and she says "I'll think about it." Then makes me wait 90 to 120 minutes before she says "no, not feeling it' or "too tired." Sure, by then it's near midnight. I don't get the "think about it" part - this isn't a enormous decision like "should we invade Europe on June 5 or June 6" - and why it takes so long. Very frustrating. I've told her I hate the long wait, nothing changes. She's batting about .600 in that department, says "no" about 6 of 10 times. Last time, I said "it took 90 minutes to decide. How long did you think about it, 90 seconds or 9 seconds." Then, when we are together she comments on how great it is. Color me still confused after 27 years married.