[Parrot_head]

This section has the fewest posts.. sigh..
Hopefully there are more success stories that are shown here to show there is happiness in 20 yr + marriages....

My wife and I will be married 20 yrs in June , 2 kids ..1 in university the other next year , she turned 42 this yr so we will most likely be empty nesters in our early / mid 40's..

Our friends , about 3/4 of them are still in relations of 10+ yrs , but some are teetering on collapse.. Still better than the national avg..

 

[Gaia]

Indeed. Congrats btw.
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[Parrot_head]

Other facts of our 20 yr marriage..

Wife was a sahm.. We wanted that from the start .. I now want to be a SahD..

Kids are excellent in school , My son who started university may likely get an assistant to a professor job because of his marks..

Even though I am self employed 10 + yrs , I always stayed home Sundays..

Wife is Xcellent cook.. I have not lost the weight since our first child..

She still laughs at my humor..

She has always missed me and cant wait until I get home from work , even on a daily basis..

TBC

 

[Gaia]

That sounds wonderful parrot! I love reading stories like this. Im wishing you and a few others on here many more years of happiness.
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[lilith23]

Congratulations! I like to hear successful stories, they inspire me and puts a smile on my face.

I guess that maybe the best things are rare and hard to achieve. It's normal that relationships has its ups and downs, but many couples might not last when they pass through the downs.

But it makes me smile every time I see an old couple holding hands. It's so sweet, and I believe that affection and love do last.

 

[lilith23]

Also, maybe we see more posts on other desperate sections since people usually go to forums for help, while the happy ones usually don't feel the need to go to forums.

 

[Michael A. Brown]

Good to know that you would able to maintain the strong bond of your marriage for a long time.

 

[Parrot_head]

Its been pretty good.. Wine helps:toast:

 

[waiwera]

Nice posting parrot_head

 

[Athena1]

Great to hear, I'd love to hear more!

It seems natural that this section would have the least posts, since most people probably find this forum because they are looking to fix something. When our relationships are working well, we don't tend to worry about learning more about it!

Anyways, really great to hear. And I would love to hear more about it.

 

[Mavash.]

I'm happily married - 21 years now. I don't post on this section because people come here for help not to read happy stories.

We got off track which was why I found TAM. I stick around to help others and because yes this forum is addicting. LOL

 

[ChknNoodleSoup]

Aw! I want that too. Congrats.

 

[SimplyAmorous]

Mavash said: I don't post in this section because people come here for help not to read happy stories.

I did a happy post on here .... sappy / romantic / hand in hand stuff ..... then Mavash posted this right after....I suddenly felt this sense of embarrassment - like I am uncaring, braggish... so I immediately deleted it. I don't believe it was personal in any way - but she probably has a point and many DO feel this way.

A question for you all ......

It is more

and a sense of

when you read of others HAPPY experiences / marriages and / or thrilling fireworks sex lives here on TAM ?

I never forgot this thread by Romantic Guy - he felt almost guilty talking about the GOOD in his marriage because of all the pain spilled here ... http://talkaboutmarriage.com/sex-marriage/39436-so-sad.html

I know even for me, I find myself envious reading certain posts ...we probably all have our triggers....but yet... I love the openness, the stories of overcoming, and the sharing of the good too.

 

[Parrot_head]

I feel no guilt posting this really , We have our issues as many do , but we find a way to fix things.. We try to never go to bed angry is one thing we do.. Don't get me wrong .. We have our bad times as well , but overall I do not regret anything..

 

[CH]

If you have a great relationship, you don't need to come to these boards

 

[TCSRedhead]

I love these kinds of stories - it gives hope.

 

[SimplyAmorous]

I feel no guilt posting this really , We have our issues as many do , but we find a way to fix things.. We try to never go to bed angry is one thing we do.. Don't get me wrong .. We have our bad times as well , but overall I do not regret anything..

We are like you Parrot_head....we try to never let the sun go down on our anger...(ya know a scripture says that ~ Ephesians 4:26).... I would say maybe 2-3 times in 23 yrs. I simply can't sleep if we are

We are both utterly miserable & worthless to anyone when we are at odds... but in it's own way...this is helpful...as it brings us together - so we'll deal with it, get it all out & find our "Peace" again. Everybody has times of conflict.

 

[Caribbean Man]

We have our issues as many do , but we find a way to fix things..

^^^^^^^^^
This is our mantra.
And we have been married for 17 years.
What we have together is the most important thing to both of us.

Congrats on your marriage, and congrats on your son's prospect in university.
He must be really making you guys really PROUD!

 

[life101]

Congrats! Good to see you make each other happy.

 

[jaquen]

We are both utterly miserable & worthless to anyone when we are at odds... but in it's own way...this is helpful...as it brings us together - so we'll deal with it, get it all out & find our "Peace" again. Everybody has times of conflict.

So are we! Sometimes it just makes me sick LOL, like we just need to get over ourselves. But no, if we have a deep enough disagreement (and the word is disagreement, because my wife never argues), and things don't feel settled with us, it throws both of us completely off. We walk around all in a funk, all butt hurt over not being on the same accord.

We're such dorks in love sometimes.