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So much to tell in so little space.
Suffice it to say that I, through my lack of initiative for sex, turned my marriage into a roommate relationship. My wife could not stand this after 16 years (and I, in many ways, cannot blame her), and decided to lose a bunch of weight, do self-improvement and go looking for someone to pay attention to her. He is a long-distance "friend", but now she has gone 2 states away to visit him for a couple of weeks.
Just prior to this, she announced that she wanted a separation, I suppose, in her mind, to free her to have this fling from (somewhat) within our marriage. She's now been gone for over a week, and I'm agonizing over the end of our marriage. We are, by the way, conducting our separation from under one roof, as neither can afford to move out and away.
I guess I'd like some perspective from anyone who has been through a similar thing. I believe that, at this point, I might forgive infidelity, as I feel I drove her to it, but on the other hand, I appreciate the sanctity of marriage, and am very upset that she would exit our marriage this way. I want to reconcile if at all possible.
Suffice it to say that I, through my lack of initiative for sex, turned my marriage into a roommate relationship. My wife could not stand this after 16 years (and I, in many ways, cannot blame her), and decided to lose a bunch of weight, do self-improvement and go looking for someone to pay attention to her. He is a long-distance "friend", but now she has gone 2 states away to visit him for a couple of weeks.
Just prior to this, she announced that she wanted a separation, I suppose, in her mind, to free her to have this fling from (somewhat) within our marriage. She's now been gone for over a week, and I'm agonizing over the end of our marriage. We are, by the way, conducting our separation from under one roof, as neither can afford to move out and away.
I guess I'd like some perspective from anyone who has been through a similar thing. I believe that, at this point, I might forgive infidelity, as I feel I drove her to it, but on the other hand, I appreciate the sanctity of marriage, and am very upset that she would exit our marriage this way. I want to reconcile if at all possible.