Hi Mate,
This Could be her way of showing you how she feels about you going away every other weekend. I don't think it was unreasonable because your day together was pulled from under you and to speak with her about it in a nice manner I feel was the right way to approach the situation.
In saying that, she also has a point. She saw an opportunity for bulk shopping and took it, she provided for the relationship in another way. Either she is trying to make a point about your absence in some other way or she enjoys time away from you not necessarily because of YOU, just some free time.
I would test the boundaries by doing the same thing to her with a mate of yours. Just vanish for half the day and leave a nice note. Then tell her the same things she said to you and see how she reacts. If she is pissed, she was trying to make a point. If she is ok, then that is the gauge of your relationship. Make sure your vanishing act has some benefit on the relationship some how so that you don't seem selfish.
The reason I would test the boundaries like this is because it seems to be a non negotiable point with her and talk will result in an argument. Bear in mind I'm passive aggressive. Also, if its bulk shopping, could this not be done on the weekend that you are away, or could you move your weekend away to the other week?
Good luck mate
This Could be her way of showing you how she feels about you going away every other weekend. I don't think it was unreasonable because your day together was pulled from under you and to speak with her about it in a nice manner I feel was the right way to approach the situation.
In saying that, she also has a point. She saw an opportunity for bulk shopping and took it, she provided for the relationship in another way. Either she is trying to make a point about your absence in some other way or she enjoys time away from you not necessarily because of YOU, just some free time.
I would test the boundaries by doing the same thing to her with a mate of yours. Just vanish for half the day and leave a nice note. Then tell her the same things she said to you and see how she reacts. If she is pissed, she was trying to make a point. If she is ok, then that is the gauge of your relationship. Make sure your vanishing act has some benefit on the relationship some how so that you don't seem selfish.
The reason I would test the boundaries like this is because it seems to be a non negotiable point with her and talk will result in an argument. Bear in mind I'm passive aggressive. Also, if its bulk shopping, could this not be done on the weekend that you are away, or could you move your weekend away to the other week?
Good luck mate
