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I just wanted to let you guys know about this thing. Mort Fertel has been advertising his Marriage Fitness programs on my websites for a long time. Some might say I'm bias because of that, but I have a ton of people who advertise on my sites so if I were to lose one or gain one it would really be no big deal.

Anyway, his Marriage Fitness program has been around a long time, and my wife and I have a good relationship so I never thought to sign up for the free newsletter or buy any of his products. Well, the other day I went to his website, took his free marriage assessment, and signed up for the free newsletter.

The assessment was great. Pretty accurate, and as I suspected, my wife and I had a good relationship (according to the assessment). But even while taking the assessment I realized some things it asked about that I could do more of that would probably improve our relationship. Very good :)

Then I started getting his newsletters in my inbox, and I was surprised at the helpful stuff he had in them. My wife and I don't have the kind of problems that most people who sign up for these things are having, but there are tips that will improve all relationships, not just those teetering on the verge of collapse. Best of all, it's free.

So I give it the "thumbs up.":smthumbup:

Here's Mort's website if you want to check out his program:

Marriage Max .com

Let me know what you guys think about it as well.
 

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I concur... my marriage is on the verge of divorce, and he has some very well thought out arguements not only for buying his product... but just for relationships in general. You don't even have to be in trouble and he is giving good advice.
 

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Not sure if this thread is supposed to be added to, but I have received Mort's program and I have finished reading his book. I have to say that it speaks to my soul. I believe that everything he says is true. I don't know if this arrived in time to save my marriage, but I truly, truly believe that if you follow his guidelines, and you are with someone who believes in the same or is willing to try them, then you can build something truly incredible with your partner.
 

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To tell you the truth I really don't think I need help, but often I look for ways to improve things here and there and pick up magazines, books, e-mail, websites, forums etc that can be used to improve or strengthen my relationship with my wife so I will be looking into it and getting the news letter just because it might help.

It also stands to reason for other sdvertizers that after years it might be their turn to get a review. All the more reason to stick with you.

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I'm on chapter 4 and I have to say, I recommend this. I bought the DVD set the Marriage Fitness Program. It makes a lot of sense and has helped me to see things through a different perspective and some ways to improve things.
 

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I finished the CDs and I found a lot of very helpful advice. My husband started listening, he got about half through (hoping he will finish)... anyway we are implementing some of these ideas. One huge one for us is that "business" type things should just be handled once a week....i.e. discussing bills & finances and other business like things necessary in a marriage. We also run a business. One thing that we discovered is that when we first were married my husband did not want to deal with anything related to finances. I handled all of it. Somewhere maybe even 10 years ago he no longer wanted to be in the dark but he wouldn't say anything. It gave him stress to not know and I was stressed being the one person who had to handle all these things. Neither of us talked about it. He finally said something, I was really surprised. Anyway, I'm happy to share those responsibilities with him but bringing him up to speed will take awhile (as I also handle the books in our business as well). We're going to start this week with the "business meetigs" in which for an hour or maybe 90 minutes we'll start going over these things and handline more financial decisions together. We always handled major purchase decisions together but things like how much should we pay on a credit card etc. was always up to me. Anyway that was just one thing but we got several out of it. It was worth the money we spent.
 

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i'm about to purchase mort fertel's program/book. (i might as well, i've bought every other resource out there!) anyone have an opinion on lee baucom? or dr phil's workbook. i'd love to hear a success story from someone here. were you on the bring of collapse? did ya save it? which program did you use? how? note: i'm at the point where i think it's all common sense, but i'd love to know there's some "technique" out there that improves the odds.
 

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Hey everybody,
Im kiwi and my wife has recently left me....and im totally heart broken as the love of my life,best friend,lover and soul mate isnt here right now. In my desperation/hurt and all the other emotions you get when your arrive at this point, i started looking around on the internet (....and not just for porn either....hahahaha) for help. After quite a few hours of research(because there is a lot of stuff out there!...and so much to choose from) I decided on Mr Fertel's site and must have read every bit of info twice. The reason im writing this is that even though there was a lot of info there, i dont think there was enough of the right kind of info.....like what you can do straight away, a feeling of that "any body" can do it (as at the time you have soooo much doubt, no matter what anyone says on their website)because at the time your really desperate and you just want it to stop. Because lets face it......you dont get nothing for free, and im not putting that down.....but the cost of the course is a big ask of you at a low time of your life! (and once again you think, hes only saying this to get some cash!) So what im going to do is everyday im going to post on here how im getting on and how i think the course is helping (or not) and ill record all my successes (failures too if i have any) and let you all know how i get on. Hopefully not only will this help me on my jounrney but will help others to pick(or not) this course! rather than just seeing a whole lot of testimonals which any one could of written! So........wish me luck and send me your love and prayers as i start my new journey to a BETTER ME and a OUTSTANDING MARRIAGE with my wife. please feel free to say stuff.
Today is 2nd February 2009 and i got woken up by the damm courier at 0600 (lucky i was already up)who delieverd my brand new Marriage Fitness course. Well straight away i looked at all the stuff and read about the stuff i was meant to have and found that i was missing a autographed book (got the book but it hasnt been signed) by the man himself!...now i know what your thinking......so what!....but at the end of the day....they are provding a service and we should get EVERYTHING we were promised (promises are a big thing in one of his steps).....also what happened to quality control?????....and making sure things get checked before they go out? NOT A GOOD START, but dont let that stop me....only a minor thing. Ill email them and see what they say.....ill keep you all informed and we can see what there customer service is like. So far ive listened to disc one- and im impressed and have just completed exercise 1.6. Oh by the way guys....im not getting paid for this, i just thought maybe i could help someone make a informed choice......see ya all later - Kiwi
 

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Hey everyone, its kiwi here. Hope you are all well and things are just that little bit better for you. Havent been on for two days because i couldnt find the original thread, DOH, my fault because i had put on a duplicate thread...sorry guys. Well as you can see there is some good news as at least i got a reply from marriage fitness about not getting a copy. Have already sent them my details, they want me to send the book back....but dont i need to use it?????????? so ill just wait out and see, but at least a speedy reply, good on ya guys! Well as promised, the next day 4th February (remeber im in New Zealand so time maybe out of whack). Anyway have read chapter one (and listened to the next disc)and it has really given me something to think about the MEANING of love and has made me have a good look at myself.....some not good stuff but also ive found some good bits too! As part of the course you get to have a live Q&A time with him on the phone (which i admit is pretty cool), i told them that because i was in NZ i might not be able to attend as ill be at work and if i do, ill just catch the end and i may not get a chance to put my question across. I was pretty impressed when i got a reply saying i could email them my question BUT (there is always one) it had to be 100 words or less.....hmmmm what do you reckon guys? can you do in that? not sure if i can but ill give it a go. I must admit, even though there is some really good stuff, it is a bit hard to see (well at this stage anyway) how if you are doing it by yourself (as i am) how you can help things (as Mr Fertel is really big on that it only takes one determined side to get it rolling), i suppose it would help if he had a few more success stories you could hear about in the lone ranger track (as thats what a single person doing the track is reffered as) about how one spouse was able to turn it around....dont get me wrong you do get a few discs to listen too, i just think you need a bit more success stories, because lets face it, at this low time we all need to hear about how they did it....espically on their own. Otherwise guys the course is going really well....now off to see if i can get everything down to 100 words, so until tommorw folks....stay well and look after yourselves and remeber tomorrow is another day to make your NEW relationship BETTER.....see ya!
 

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Oh hey.....forgot to say, that today my wife and i met as we have to do some stuff togeather about our house we are building (its 2/3 finished) and i kind of brought up the idea about seeing a outdoor cinema in the park (this friday evening)....later on the day ( i mentioned it once again then left it at that as i didnt want her to think i was pressuring her) as i left for work and she headed back to where she is staying, i sent her a text to thank her for coming over and helping me sort out the stuff we had done this morning...and without any input from me she texted back saying "thank you moto(our pet name for each other.....dont ask, long story) look forward to friday" now im not pining my hopes on it or anything, but its a start....as i dont know if it was geniune or if she was just feeling a bit sorry for me.....i know people would say..."you should know your own wife".....but you know, thats a bit irrelevaant because your own emotions are so out of whack...you just dont know- but dont worry folks....i will keep you posted! - its really hard not to text or call, but team you really have to learn to give them time and space!.....damm hard though, i think i may have to break my fingers.....hahahahahahahaha........Kiwi
 

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I have been receiving emails from Mort Fertel, and all of what he says does make sense to me. My problem is that although I understand what he is saying, I really don't feel like trying to improve things in my marraige anymore. I have given up totally. Husband refuses to take responsibility for things he says and does, when he is confronted with said things, he denies it. His favourite words are "you are wrong and I am right and I will prove it". Try living with that for a while.
 

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Hey Everyone! Its your favourite guy from down under. Hope you are all a bit better today and things just might not look as bad as yesterday. Debby, read your post. My heart truely goes out to you!If you can find it in your heart (and im sure itll be really hard) please Dont give up!!!!! remeber what 'ole Mort said "it only takes one" ........let it be you! (i said that....lol) Well team today is 05/02/09 (sorry for the states itll be the other way round...lol) and today i read chapter 2 (you know the book that wasn;t autograhped,lol) and it was really eye opening as it talked about you and your spouse being soul mates. WELL....i thought i knew what they were all about till i read the book and now i reliaze i was on the right track but i forgot to take a map! in other words, it was really broken down for me, in that they are ways where you only play lip service to the words and then there is the true way where you connect!!!!! and thats the difference. On a lighter note i got a text from my wife saying " look forward to the movie nights (as we are going saturday as well), hope its warm" See one thing i am struggling with is that to a poor humble guy like myself, i get mixed messages from my wife as she has said that she wants us to stay friends and still wants me in her life, but at the same time she has also said she doesnt want to try anymore!!!!!!....figure that one out!!!!! Also guys i used the auto feature for the Q&A im going to send.......857 words!!!!!!!!......lol.....hell....lots of editing needed!!!!
I really hope someone is getting something out of this and please, drop a line.....dont be shy! well till the next time folks, take care and my love and blessings to you all, just remember, everyday above grond is a good day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Luv Kiwi
 

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Hiya Everyone, Well today is another lovely sunny day here (even better is that its a public holiday). Been listening to CD2 "how to live love"...and it was really helpful.....going to try some of the stuff tonight! Well im REALLY looking forward tonight as my wife and i are going to this outdoor cinema thingy tonight!!!!! i know its slightly against what Mort suggests but i think this time........it is a start and i believe a positive thing (well it makes me happy). I was just thinking.....(see what you think).....i believe the course is a big investment and i wonder if maybe we could actually email the guy directly.....maybe two or three, i did try to email him, but his assistant said that due to his scedule he cant email......hmmmmm???????.....yes im sure he his, but if he REALLY cares......would it hurt? and im damm sure people wqould respesct/appreciate him more....as sometimes people cant say what they want to but they can write it (though one good point is that you do get a chance to have a one-on-one phone call with him)....food for thought guys. You know one point that Mort makes is that......"slow is fast and fast is slow" and that it only takes little steps to get everything going the rightway again! Well just checking in guys......ill let you know how it goes tonight. Stay safe team and see ya tomorrow. See ya . Kiwi
 

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Hiya Team, Well im back, and you would of noticed that i havent written for a couple of days.Well i do have a good excuse....i got hurt at work and wasnt able to write as my arm was in a sling. Well we had our night out and it was really good.....BUT she was like a cold fish and that was really hard! she said she didnt know how to react so as not to give me a false impression. All i wanted was to spend time with her! it was hard as i feel she really doesnt want to try!....a bit of a low point for me at the moment. I really tried to put this out of mind and try to implment/remeber what Mort said....but it kind of went in one ear and out the other! So i'm not sure what to do next. i guess i need to go over all the stuff agin to try and get back into the zone.
 

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Hiya Guys, Hope you all are doing a little better. As part of the programme today i took a marriage assessment (this is actually free off Morts website even if you didnt get the course! which i think is awsome!) and it wasnt good....i scored an 8! Also i learnt about the compatibilty myth......and as far as i can make out, thats exactly what it is....a myth!...."....its not falling in love with the right person but falling in love with the person you have found!" a great quote!!!! and now one more..... cinderalla asked "do you love me because im beautiful or am i beautiful because you love me?" these were some great quotes for me to ponder on. You know as i said before that this would be an even better course if there were a few more sucess stories about different situations because (and Mort does talk about the fact that every situation is different) i think people might be able to relate better. Oh by the way, i never did hear back from Mort again in regards to getting another book???!!!!! which kind of makes me a little sad and angry as it kind of makes me think that the little guy has lost out.....again, yes im sure hes busy but does he have not staff????? i thought they were meant to be helpful. Now dont get me wrong, if they put it right then i will definately tell you guys- the reason for all this is not to be a place to slag this course but to help people make a informed decison. My wife and i did meet up again and we decided to have no contact for 3 weeks (true, may have broken one of Morts rules but to be honest at the time i think it was the right thing to do) Well off to do other stuff......need to keep busy! Take care everyone and speak to you all soon.
 

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Hiya Guys,

Well at the moment im watching the DVD that was supplied with the course, its a live session with Mort (put love first). So far it looks good. Well back to how the course is going......i must admit, im struggling at the moment.....as i really miss my wife and i find it hard to not be in contct with her; but on the other side of the coin, if you dont have ANY contact then you cant get back togeather! you see guys my thinking was.... give my wife space and time to think....but one danger is that she may come back and say "i love you but i dont want to be in a relationship with you" as she has said this in the past. Also i am now on phase 5, i have quickly skimmed through the course and i did not notice we get to write a marriage contract, which im really looking forward to doing. Guys, i think one of the really good things about this course is that its kind of fun as your not talking about the negative things (though you dont ignore it totally) but concentrate on being better and keeping it better! well just a short one today folks, want to go and watch the rest of the DVD, enjoy the rest of your day (or night)......see ya later!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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Hiya Guys, I finished the DVD.....sorry but didnt think that much of it, it started off well......but well it wasnt that great....it was ok. Im in a better place these days, even though it is hard, espically if you are on the lone ranger track and you dont live with your spouse........i have to remain positive! Sorry guys, just a short post today
 

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:) Hey guys! sorry have been away. Well tonight i started doing my template for my "intimacy interview" and i must amit, i really enjoyed it, though not as easy as i thought it might be....still can put more into it so its a work in progress! though i am looking forward to "interviewing" my wife! plus i suppose it will also be an indication of where i stand. About to rewrite my marriage misson statment (this will be my second version) so ill let yoa know how it goes. Well guys just a short post, as need to go to sleep as have an early start. take care all:smthumbup:
 
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