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LOVE/MARRIAGE

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Ephesians 5 (King James Version)

28So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

29For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

31For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

33Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

Colossians 3 (King James Version)

18Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.

19Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.

20Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

21Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

QU'RAN

5. The Table Spread (Al-Máída)
005.005 This day are (all) good things made lawful for you. The food of those who have received the Scripture is lawful for you, and your food is lawful for them. And so are the virtuous women of the believers and the virtuous women of those who received the Scripture before you (lawful for you) when ye give them their marriage portions and live with them in honour, not in fornication, nor taking them as secret concubines. Whoso denieth the faith, his work is vain and he will be among the losers in the Hereafter.


BUDDHIST

'Compassion and love are not mere luxuries.
As the source both of inner and external peace,
they are fundamental to the continued survival of our species.'
His Holiness the XIV Dalai Lama

LOVE
The definition of love in Buddhism is: wanting others to be happy.
This love is unconditional and it requires a lot of courage and acceptance (including self-acceptance).
The "near enemy" of love, or a quality which appears similar, but is more an opposite is: conditional love (selfish love, see also the page on attachment).
The opposite is wanting others to be unhappy: anger, hatred.
A result which one needs to avoid is: attachment.

This definition means that 'love' in Buddhism refers to something quite different from the ordinary term of love which is usually about attachment, more or less successful relationships and sex; all of which are rarely without self-interest. Instead, in Buddhism it refers to de-tachment and the unselfish interest in others' welfare.

'Even offering three hundred bowls of food three times a day does not match the spiritual merit gained in one moment of love.'
Nagarjuna

"If there is love, there is hope that one may have real families, real brotherhood, real equanimity, real peace. If the love within your mind is lost and you see other beings as enemies, then no matter how much knowledge or education or material comfort you have, only suffering and confusion will ensue"
His Holiness the Dalai Lama from 'The little book of Buddhism'


The thought manifests as the word. The word manifests as the deed. The deed develops into habit. And the habit hardens into character. So watch the thought and its ways with care. And let it spring from love, born out of concern for all beings. .
Buddha

CONFUCIUS

Do not impose on others what you yourself do not desire.
Confucius

Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.
Confucius

HINDU
Only in a world of love can we unfold and grow

When love was to himself yet new and warm
And stainless, played like morning with a flower
Ruru with his young bride Priyumvada.
Fresh-cheeked and dew-eyed white Priyumvada
Opened her budded heart of crimson bloom
To love, to Ruru; Ruru, a happy flood
Of passion round a lotus dancing thrilled,
Blinded with his soul's waves Priyumvada.


WICCA

As a man loveth a woman, by mastering her, so the Wicca should love the Gods, by being mastered by them.
Book of Shadows The Old Laws(1961)~Gardner

OTHER NOTABLES

There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread.
Mother Teresa

The greatest science in the world; in heaven and on earth; is love.
Mother Teresa

Fear less, hope more, eat less, chew more, whine less, breathe more, talk less, say more, love more, and all good things will be yours.
Swedish Proverb

To be loved, be lovable.
Ovid

Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it.
English proverb

~~Compiled by draconis~~
 

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That was interesting, draconis. So, what were you trying to say in all that? Personally, I have problems with some of it, because they are not my beliefs, but it's interesting to see what others say about love.
 

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I would love to hear more of free will versus destiny...is this a good place to start?
I took a religion class on free will vs. destiny once. it was really interesting. the professor thought everything was destiny b/c, he said, he couldnt imagine a situation where anyone had a thought that wasnt determined on their past experiences. He said he could not even conceive of a "free" thought. He ended up convincing me.
 

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Drac, I think it is great you have studied many religions, I have done the same while I was in college.

It is interesting how they intertwine and yet are so different.

I hope it is a real eye opener for some.

Live is full of diversity and you must be versitile to move forward.

Understanding your past and others past will help shape your future.

Kudo's.
 

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what do you mean?
Abraham's barter with God is one example

Genesis 18:20-32 (King James Version)

20And the LORD said, Because the cry of Sodom and Gomorrah is great, and because their sin is very grievous;

21I will go down now, and see whether they have done altogether according to the cry of it, which is come unto me; and if not, I will know.

22And the men turned their faces from thence, and went toward Sodom: but Abraham stood yet before the LORD.

23And Abraham drew near, and said, Wilt thou also destroy the righteous with the wicked?

24Peradventure there be fifty righteous within the city: wilt thou also destroy and not spare the place for the fifty righteous that are therein?

25That be far from thee to do after this manner, to slay the righteous with the wicked: and that the righteous should be as the wicked, that be far from thee: Shall not the Judge of all the earth do right?

26And the LORD said, If I find in Sodom fifty righteous within the city, then I will spare all the place for their sakes.

27And Abraham answered and said, Behold now, I have taken upon me to speak unto the LORD, which am but dust and ashes:

28Peradventure there shall lack five of the fifty righteous: wilt thou destroy all the city for lack of five? And he said, If I find there forty and five, I will not destroy it.

29And he spake unto him yet again, and said, Peradventure there shall be forty found there. And he said, I will not do it for forty's sake.

30And he said unto him, Oh let not the LORD be angry, and I will speak: Peradventure there shall thirty be found there. And he said, I will not do it, if I find thirty there.

31And he said, Behold now, I have taken upon me to speak unto the LORD: Peradventure there shall be twenty found there. And he said, I will not destroy it for twenty's sake.

32And he said, Oh let not the LORD be angry, and I will speak yet but this once: Peradventure ten shall be found there. And he said, I will not destroy it for ten's sake.
 

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Abraham's barter with God is one example
I dont get how this passage is an example of free will vs. determinism. It is just an example of an exchange of communication between Abraham and God.

Are you saying that God can change his own mind and so there is free will? And so in the above passage are you assuming that God changed his mind at some point?
 

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I dont get how this passage is an example of free will vs. determinism. It is just an example of an exchange of communication between Abraham and God.

Are you saying that God can change his own mind and so there is free will? And so in the above passage are you assuming that God changed his mind at some point?
God wanted Abraham to find fifty good people, yet allowed himself to be talked down to ten. Now as many parts of the bible the passage can be taken many ways. The set with Job, Satan and God whereas God doesn't know where Satan had been, And Satan Challenges God's sevant Job (Kind of a bad bet if God knew he would lose? Though the argument is Satan liked the misery, but it only reinforced Job and many others. Why would God test Job, Moses, Adam, Eve, Cain, Isiah etc if he knew how they would do in the tests?

Let me ask you, what fruit did Adam and Eve eat in the Garden of Eden?

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God wanted Abraham to find fifty good people, yet allowed himself to be talked down to ten.
Well, to get on the same page here, I'm not really talking about whether God can or cant change his mind. Im talking about what causes that change, whether it was a "free" choice, i.e. ones past and biological makeup had nothing to do with it, or whether the choice was determined by the nature/nurture of that persons' past.

So even if Gods mind was changed in this situation, I would argue that it was determined to be that way from the beginning and that nothing really 'changed'.

(Kind of a bad bet if God knew he would lose?... Why would God test Job, Moses, Adam, Eve, Cain, Isiah etc if he knew how they would do in the tests?
I'm not talking about the omnipotence of God. What Job, Moses, Adam, Eve, Cain, Isaiah, and yes, even God, all did in each of those situations was determined by the nature/nurture of their past. Their response to God, and Gods decision to test them, was determined to happen that way. Now whether or not God knew that, and why he did it if he already knew it, well, that's another topic.

Let me ask you, what fruit did Adam and Eve eat in the Garden of Eden?
I've heard it was sex. but then i dont really know.
 

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okay. question. was satan one of God's creations?
I've heard Satan was his son, yes. That is an interesting spin, isnt it. How can anything evil come out of god??? but then, if you think about it, all evil is Gods creation.
 

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I've heard Satan was his son, yes. That is an interesting spin, isnt it. How can anything evil come out of god??? but then, if you think about it, all evil is Gods creation.
satan had/has God-like powers didn't/doesn't he? because satan is not a mortal.

hey, sorry, i'm not trying to highjack this thread. i just became very interested in religion sept. 2nd of this year. i like to hear/read other people's ideas about God.
 

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Satan or the Morning Star was an Arch Angel and second to God, by all bible, acrophila etc text.

The Fruit was the fruit of knowledge. Whwn Adam and Eve eat that they np longer did things by instict, they had thought, and reason. If you believe in manifest destiny why bother with anything, even church, the bible, prayer, even this thread because whether you will go to heaven or not has been determined.

Without reading other texts not put into the bible parts of the bible don't make sense like the two creation stories of man, The fact Adam and Eve had 3 sons but they married girls.

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If you believe in manifest destiny why bother with anything, even church, the bible, prayer, even this thread because whether you will go to heaven or not has been determined.
I dont bother. I simply live out my determined destiny :). To say that I choose to bother with these things would imply I'm making a "free" choice. However, I am not making a "free" choice. My choice to do any of the above is determined by my biological makeup and my nurture. If I choose to do nothing, that also was determined from the beginning.

Just as the body is determined on its path before it even leaves the mothers womb, so does the mind follow the same determination.
 
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