[angelicious]

My husband and I are friends with this couple. They are going through a difficult time right now. Financially things are looking bad and we feel they are heading for divorce. Husband is very passive and wife is overbearing. The reason I've tolerated this relationship is primarily because of of my husband's work relationship with the husband.

Lately, however, I have found the wife's behavior to be unacceptable. Every event where she is present, she proceeds to get blackout drunk. During these episodes, she verbally abuses her husband (who pretends none of this is happening). She has accused other friends of ours of flirting with other people's wives/husbands. basically she's a.) a person who likes to stir the pot and b.) is very unhappy and would prefer if others were unhappy as well.

I really want to distance myself from this woman. That also means her husband as they are a package deal. My husband disagrees and wants me to tolerate her because he works with her husband.

I just feel like this woman is toxic. Everytime we're around her we argue, I just don't know who to handle this situation. I just feel like in a marriage, there are certain relationships that are good for your marriage and certain ones that are bad. We're newlyweds and I don't think being around someone whoo constantly talks about divorcing her husband is best for use.

Any advice is appreciated.

 

[RClawson]

Tell your husband he is on his own with this one. He can keep on being their friend but you are done. Do you really see any other way?

 

[heavensangel]

Doesn't sound like it, but I'm going to throw this ??? out there.....anyway possible you could ignore her? Are there other friends/couples that are out with you where you could concentrate on mingling with them instead? If not, you may have to let your H handle this couple on his own. Tough situation to be in really!

On a positive note: she's making your H appreciate more the gem he has in YOU for a wife.

We have neighbors like this; so negative, itdrives us absolutely insane. When/if we interact with them, H always tells me how thankful he is that I'm nothing like her; said he'd put a foot up my @$$ if/when it seems she might be rubbing off Lol!

 

[aston]

Tell your husband how you feel and draw a fine line. You should not be tolerating that kind of energy coming into your marriage.

 

[JJG]

You are in control of your relationship. Why are you allowing someone elses marriage problems cause arguments between you and your husband?

Remember your hubs no doubt hates the situation as much as you. Do you want him to think of you as the person who made the whole thing more difficult between himself and his work colleague? or the person who helped him deal with a bad situation?

 

[MrK]

Tell your husband he is on his own with this one. He can keep on being their friend but you are done. Do you really see any other way?

I sure don't.