How long were you two together? How old are you and your ex?
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Hiya, so lets cut to the point, me and my ex have started speaking again as friends in the last couple of days after about a month of no contact. When we were together we a decent bond together until we didn't which was the last couple of days of the relationship together. Now that we've started talking again, do yous think that there is a chance that we get back together?
She did message me a couple days ago saying "I still do care about you and I will always love you no matter what as you did make me really happy you know".
Any help will be class
She did message me a couple days ago saying "I still do care about you and I will always love you no matter what as you did make me really happy you know".
Any help will be class
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We were together for some time, like 5 month this month was gonna be our 6 month time together........ and we are both 18How long were you two together? How old are you and your ex?
In my humble opinion you are on a road for friendship, not to rekindle your love. Might happen later on, but not after a month. There were reasons for you both splitting. These reasons are not gone after only a month. If you two start a relationship so soon again it is likely to fail again. This time maybe worse.Hiya, so lets cut to the point, me and my ex have started speaking again as friends in the last couple of days after about a month of no contact. When we were together we a decent bond together until we didn't which was the last couple of days of the relationship together. Now that we've started talking again, do yous think that there is a chance that we get back together?
She did message me a couple days ago saying "I still do care about you and I will always love you no matter what as you did make me really happy you know".
Any help will be class
So, I would take it slow. Friendship can be fine and fun. And you can see from there what might become of it. But my suggestion would be not to rush it. Hope this helps.
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Oh yeah I mean dont get me wrong I do want a friendship with this girl because her personality is amazing. She's the type of person you want to be around as she's caring you know.In my humble opinion you are on a road for friendship, not to rekindle your love. Might happen later on, but not after a month. There were reasons for you both splitting. These reasons are not gone after only a month. If you two start a relationship so soon again it is likely to fail again. This time maybe worse.
So, I would take it slow. Friendship can be fine and fun. And you can see from there what might become of it. But my suggestion would be not to rush it. Hope this helps.
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She did also say that she wished we met later on when we both were more ready as I pressume we would've had a better chance at the relationship.
Yeah I will take it slow, I wasn't planning on trying to get into a relationship with her at any time soon anyways.
Too young, too inexperienced and too non- established.We were together for some time, like 5 month this month was gonna be our 6 month time together........ and we are both 18
She did also say that she wished we met later on when we both were more ready as I presume we would've had a better chance at the relationship.
And she is absolutely right. Sounds like a clever savvy girl to me. By all means be friends and even have several female friends but avoid getting into any serious relationships until as a guy you are at least 30 years old, with experience and better established in your life.
I made a dumb mistake when I married my first wife both age 21. We had nothing and it ended up a disaster.
In the meantime concentrate on your education, achieving a career because at 18 you have your whole life in front of you.
Trust me on this one.
Yeah, you kind of skated past that bit. Did you learn anything useful about yourself?we had a decent bond together until we didn't
That is womanese, and it means “consider yourself friend-zoned.”She did message me a couple days ago saying "I still do care about you and I will always love you no matter what as you did make me really happy you know".
Do you know if she’s chatting another guy? Does she have a lot of guy friends?
You are 18 & while 5 months is significant at 18, it's not that long. If you are talking again, there is a possibility of reconciliation but I urge you not to go there until you are sure that you & she fixed whatever problem broke you up in the 1st place.
Just try to enjoy your summer & go with the flow.
Just try to enjoy your summer & go with the flow.
There’s always a a chance. The real questions are is it likely, and is it a good thing?
You guys were together for 5 months which in the grand scheme of things is not a lot of time at all. You then were broken up and no contact for 1 month which is also not a lot of time to get over someone.
You also did not really discuss why you broke up. Bonding well and then not bonding well is extremely vague.
Need more information on this one to provide clear advice.
You guys were together for 5 months which in the grand scheme of things is not a lot of time at all. You then were broken up and no contact for 1 month which is also not a lot of time to get over someone.
You also did not really discuss why you broke up. Bonding well and then not bonding well is extremely vague.
Need more information on this one to provide clear advice.
Who instigated the breakup. If it was her, you’d be better off considering her to be plutonium. You don’t want to play around with that. You will get burnt.
At best puppy love.We were together for some time, like 5 month this month was gonna be our 6 month time together........ and we are both 18
Your brain and her brain are not fully developed until you get close to 25 give or take a little. You are too young to be in a serious relationship (said from a guy who got married at 21, which was too young, but it worked). Also, try to get to know more than one woman, so you understand some of the different personality characteristics and values that you really want in a spouse. I am talking values about money, family, ethics, commitment, trust, etc.
If you can't emotionally let go of your feelings for her as a "friend" and enjoy watching her be with other men, you should definitely totally let her go. The worst thing you can do is be one of the clingy, jealous friend-zoned guys that hover around girls that ignore them.
Good luck.
Was this your longest relationship so far?
Why did it end?
Be friends... but chase others...there are a lot of fish in the sea.
Why did it end?
Be friends... but chase others...there are a lot of fish in the sea.
Right I cant reply to everyone as I will just repeat meself but im not sure whether to just stay friends with her or stay friends and try to get back with at some point the future.
Because before we got into a relationship we had an amazing bond as friends and we got into the relationship because everytime she went out drinking, she would message me saying "When can we get together" and stuff along those lines. I feel like we rushed into the relationship. But I guess that was me fault as I took the expression "drunk words are just sober thoughts" way too literally.
What do yous think? Should I just stay as friends or try get back with her in the future?
bare in mind that when we were together (like in person) we were amazing, we had no problems. But when we were away from each other thats when problems started.
Because before we got into a relationship we had an amazing bond as friends and we got into the relationship because everytime she went out drinking, she would message me saying "When can we get together" and stuff along those lines. I feel like we rushed into the relationship. But I guess that was me fault as I took the expression "drunk words are just sober thoughts" way too literally.
What do yous think? Should I just stay as friends or try get back with her in the future?
bare in mind that when we were together (like in person) we were amazing, we had no problems. But when we were away from each other thats when problems started.
Too young for anything serious. Too young to be focused on serious relationships. You're 18/19.. You just recently graduated from high school (assuming you did or will be soon).
The time now is for self development and discovery..having fun, establishing different connections with different people, learning, figuring out the future, start doing things for your future, taking advantage of opportunities only given in youth, education, career, etc... Not this...."puppy" lust.
Sounds like things weren't amazing and great. You two rushed into a relationship or what you assumed to be a relationship..
She also seems like perhaps she has a drinking problem as well...or the start to one.
I feel like you should find some way for you to leave wherever you reside before you get too deep and loose your youth...Maybe if you can go to college, trade school, get a job out of state, etc....
There's more to the world then just some relationship...
Don't get caught up.
Also I wouldn't suggest you two being friends or anything. Cease all communication and contact.
You two need to be focused on developing yourselves individually and apart.
You two need time..not months ...years.
Look each other up again when you're 30 if you still feel strongly about this.
Let each other go untill then.
Don't live to regret blowing your youth away..
Stop this now before you're heartbroken and have to deal with one another for the remainder of your lives because of a child or multiple.
The time now is for self development and discovery..having fun, establishing different connections with different people, learning, figuring out the future, start doing things for your future, taking advantage of opportunities only given in youth, education, career, etc... Not this...."puppy" lust.
Sounds like things weren't amazing and great. You two rushed into a relationship or what you assumed to be a relationship..
She also seems like perhaps she has a drinking problem as well...or the start to one.
I feel like you should find some way for you to leave wherever you reside before you get too deep and loose your youth...Maybe if you can go to college, trade school, get a job out of state, etc....
There's more to the world then just some relationship...
Don't get caught up.
Also I wouldn't suggest you two being friends or anything. Cease all communication and contact.
You two need to be focused on developing yourselves individually and apart.
You two need time..not months ...years.
Look each other up again when you're 30 if you still feel strongly about this.
Let each other go untill then.
Don't live to regret blowing your youth away..
Stop this now before you're heartbroken and have to deal with one another for the remainder of your lives because of a child or multiple.
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