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I'm the unproud owner of a unique situation. My wife ANNOUNCED her affair by deciding she'd had enough of me, due to problems in our marriage that had mainly to do with lack of sex (I was not there for her), and left on a 2-week trip to see her new man.
She is now in another state, doing who-knows-what with who-knows-who. Yet I am willing to give her the benefit of the doubt and consider reconciling when she returns, due very much to the fact that I feel I brought this on myself.
You guys who have told me to chuck her stuff out on the lawn, change the locks and file for divorce can skip this one. I have enough self-respect to go around for right now. What I seek is wisdom from people who have reconciled after an affair, how their relationships changed, and how things are now different.
I know that this is an unusual situation. That's why I need unusual help. She will return in a few more days.
Background: We have 2 grown kids who DO NOT know about this yet, but she has been exposed to everyone else. Her family thinks she's crazy (as do I). I am disabled due to mental ilness, and our finances are so tight that we are conducting our separation from under one roof.
She is now in another state, doing who-knows-what with who-knows-who. Yet I am willing to give her the benefit of the doubt and consider reconciling when she returns, due very much to the fact that I feel I brought this on myself.
You guys who have told me to chuck her stuff out on the lawn, change the locks and file for divorce can skip this one. I have enough self-respect to go around for right now. What I seek is wisdom from people who have reconciled after an affair, how their relationships changed, and how things are now different.
I know that this is an unusual situation. That's why I need unusual help. She will return in a few more days.
Background: We have 2 grown kids who DO NOT know about this yet, but she has been exposed to everyone else. Her family thinks she's crazy (as do I). I am disabled due to mental ilness, and our finances are so tight that we are conducting our separation from under one roof.