How would you answer if you knew she would do this again in 5 years…. and now they have a kid.
Or better yet …. does this while she is pregnant.
She is already a repeat offender.
What kind of position would that guy be in then ?
What happens when all the stress of being a new mom arrives or pain medication after giving birth?
She isn’t worth the risk to him. He is just screwed in the head right now and being reactive and not looking ahead to the future.
OR….. how about having an unhealthy child from her drug use….then they all pay the price.
The possibility of her having a child with a learning disability is HUGE.
She isn’t worth it…..no way.
She is clearly extremely high risk and not currently wife material and may never be.
but the question is not whether she will or will not offend again, but whether she should unilaterally opt to dump her husband and walk away for HIS benefit.
If he were to ask me my opinion on what he should do, my advice would be to hand her her clothes and personal items and wish her well as he moves on with his own life.
But he isn’t the one asking what he should do.
she is the one what she should do.
she has stated if he wants to divorce, she will understand and will comply. That is fair.
but HE needs to be the one to decide what course of action he should take. That is what agency and empowerment is and at this point the one thing he needs most is agency and empowerment over his own life.
And what she needs to do is to grant him his own agency and empowerment over his own well being and his own interests.
he may be a dumb azz and crazy for staying with her, but at least that would be by his own choice.