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so I am just going to type and see what comes out. I just started reading the forums and have been looking for some way to fix the depression and anxiety that is tearing up in me and my marriage. Not even sure where to start. I guess with current events...
Recently my wife said she would like to separate, but we cannot financially handle such a separation since we have been living hand to mouth. We decided that we would stay together but there are many problems in our marriage that need to be fixed. Namely it has to due with anger issues between both of us.
Life has thrown many obstacles on me in the past few years and I have not dealt with them emotionally. I personally am not sure how to approach them especially when they are quite numerous. Here are the situations on the table for me to handle:
Loss of my mother to cancer, my brother was in a motorcycle accident and passed away after 2 years, job loss (which resulted in me losing the financing for my masters degree), additional job losses (supplemental income), and depleted all my life savings in recovery of the job loss. That is it in a nutshell. The job loss converted me into a stay at home dad. When I lost my job we had a 10 week old and needed to cancel our the day care we setup.
I cannot say which has been the most dramatic change but all have really taxed me in many layers and immensely burdened the relationship with my wife. She knows that all of it was not my fault but I have become very pessimistic, angry, and detached. I am not the same person she married.
Not sure what to ask for in replies but reading about depression, writing about my problems is supposed to be helpful. Just as my thread started...I don't even know where to start are where I am going. All I know is that I need to keep my wife and my kid.
Recently my wife said she would like to separate, but we cannot financially handle such a separation since we have been living hand to mouth. We decided that we would stay together but there are many problems in our marriage that need to be fixed. Namely it has to due with anger issues between both of us.
Life has thrown many obstacles on me in the past few years and I have not dealt with them emotionally. I personally am not sure how to approach them especially when they are quite numerous. Here are the situations on the table for me to handle:
Loss of my mother to cancer, my brother was in a motorcycle accident and passed away after 2 years, job loss (which resulted in me losing the financing for my masters degree), additional job losses (supplemental income), and depleted all my life savings in recovery of the job loss. That is it in a nutshell. The job loss converted me into a stay at home dad. When I lost my job we had a 10 week old and needed to cancel our the day care we setup.
I cannot say which has been the most dramatic change but all have really taxed me in many layers and immensely burdened the relationship with my wife. She knows that all of it was not my fault but I have become very pessimistic, angry, and detached. I am not the same person she married.
Not sure what to ask for in replies but reading about depression, writing about my problems is supposed to be helpful. Just as my thread started...I don't even know where to start are where I am going. All I know is that I need to keep my wife and my kid.